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writes: ive been with my partener over a year now,and he just cant accept ive had a past..he gets really wound up and jealous....a good few years ago he was addicted to cocaine but hes been of it for 4 years now!.do u think the drugs are messing with his head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Cocaine is not the problem here. There is absolutely no empirical evidence to suggest that cocaine use makes you "permanantly paranoid." High doses can cause an acute psychotic break (with symptoms of paranoia), yet 4 years of abstinence is a very good indicator that cocaine use is not the source of this paranoia. And keep in mind that paranoia is not the same as jealously!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Drugs always seem to mess with peoples head, no matter what they take or how long they are on them. My ex smoked wacky for years and his head is pickled!!! The paranoia is terrible. I know how you must feel.
Everybody has a past, some worse than others but you should be tortured because of it. Don't take too much cr*p from him on this one. Let him know just how special he is to you and if all else fails then get out and get rid.
Take care
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 November 2006):
 Well the drugs don't help. Cocaine has a way of making you paranoid, and too much of it over a long time can make you permanently paranoid. But if he's ok otherwise in his life then its probably not that. Many guys struggle with their partners past, it's a common issue on this site.
The best thing you can do is understand that it's not you, but him. Don't blame yourself or feel bad about it. And then support him the best you can by making sure he knows you love him and trust him, and that you want to be with him.
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reader, rhc88 +, writes (30 November 2006):
 Everybody has a past! There is no getting away from it.
I don't think it is the drugs messing with his mind, it's more like to do with his type of personality.
Is your past in his face? etc, see's exs around, people telling him this and that? If so, try changing the scene you go out to, and tell friends they're only causing hassle and so on.
And the only this you can do, is keep suggesting to him - the past is the past, it's the future that counts. Only he matters.
Best of luck!
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