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writes:I'm in need of help! I'm just gonna get right into this bc it's one long story.A few months back this boy in my class started to chat with me. After a few weeks we became really good friends. We started to text and FaceTime/Skype a lot. Now this is when the story gets crazy. Out of nowhere one day, he text me saying he likes me. I didn't care at the time but after a few days he started to tell me how pretty I am and kept sending me paragraphs about it. I started to get uncomfortable because I didn't want anything to change between us. He told some of his friends that he likes me and his friends told my friends so now technically everyone knows which didn't bother me as much as I thought it would. Anyways all of this happened a few months back. He still likes me but I don't like him if that makes sense. All of my friends thinks he's creepy and weird. Im afraid to talk to him at school. I guess I'm just scared and I honestly don't know why.. Like what would I even say to him?.. I don't want to sound like a dork. Anyways here is the real question: today he texted me and asked me which guy do I like the most (as in friend) and idk what to say. I would say him but I don't want him thinking I like him again (he assumed that I liked him before). I don't want to hurt his feelings. What should I do? Tell him that he's my "best" guy friend or don't reply at all? Ahh please help! Thanks xx
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reader, Dina Harris  +, writes (22 April 2016):
Oh my god I'm in a similar situation and I don't know what to do. I think I've let it drag on for months now.. This guy goes to the same college as me.. I only heard of him because he's a friend of this guy in my class.. We literally only spoke for 5 minutes.. He asked if it was ok to sit next to me so obviously to avoid awkwardness I said yes.. He then asked me for my number.. I was in a rush and had to go to class so I gave him it.. This is what I regret doing! Anyway he text me loads of times asking if he can ring me.. I honestly don't like this guy and I don't find him appealing at all! Anyway it got awkward via texts because he asked me if I had a boyfriend and he said that I'm beautiful blah blah .. I was so uncomfortable at this point so I couldn't think of anything else to do but block him. This guy is known to be a bully. At first I thought he was messing about but then everytime I see him in college he's always coming up to me.. I hate it! His friends even comment about me to him.. I hate this feeling. One time I was walking out of college and he blocked my exit. He didn't let me go even though I said my dad was outside.. Like seriously that is not cool.. I want a gentleman and he is not even close. I have no feelings towards him.. I've blocked him.. I run a million miles whenever I see him.. No joke! I was walking with my sister to my car and he drives past horning trying to get my attention! I regret giving him my number.. If I didn't maybe things wouldn't have gotten to how they have now.. A few weeks ago I had to meet my friends at a place to eat close to college.. I had a few errands to run for my family so had to sort that out.. He was waiting outside the place.. I was alone and I literally felt like I was somewhere I wasn't supposed to be.. My heart was pounding.. Thankfully this guy that works at the place comes out and calls out my name and takes my hand.. I've always noticed him looking .. I never knew he knew my name.. I mean whenever I go to the restaurant he always gives me this heart warming smile.. He touched my waist and guided me to the table .. His face looked worried .. Full of anger.. Even though I should have been scared i was intrigued by him.. His touch was tight but gentle..Oh my god I love him! Even though apparently he has a shady past with drugs but he is such a gentleman.. He saved me that night.. I honestly wouldn't have the same dignity I have now.
I guess your situation is different because you are friends with him.. This guy I don't even want to be seen with him! He's a bad guy.. Doesn't have no respect nothing.
Of course friendship means the world to some people.. Also bearing in mind that people are different. Sensitivity is different. Some individuals are vulnerable.. Others can take a hard hit.. But most importantly you do what's best.. What's appropriate and reasonable.. You don't want to hurt his feelings.. Remember he thinks the world of you.. He compliments you.. You don't wanna have an enemy. You don't want to be known as the bad person
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reader, Name  +, writes (21 April 2016):
Hey there, I had a situation similar to yours.
What I did was be straight and told him I liked him only as a friend and that we would never get further. At first it was awkward but after a while we started to talk again like nothing happen. Now if things don't change as far as how you feel don't even talk to him you will get over it eventually. Now if you want to try to talk to him and stay friends that can happen too as long as you don't make the situations weird.
But you said your friends think hes weird and creepy the question is do you think that? Or maybe your scared cause you like him too and don't know how to work it out.
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reader, bettybuttercup +, writes (16 April 2016):
How can the opposite sex be best friends. Lads have their own friends who they play footy with they don't have "girl best friends" and girls have their own friends (females)who they shop and do girly stuff with. I don't believe that the opposite sex can be best friends. I think they would only be best friends if one fancies the other. This situation you have here proves that the opposite sex cannot be best friends and he would only be friends with you to go on a date with you. I would tell him that you don't have feelings for him and you would prefer to remain friends. Tell him the paragraphs make you uncomfortable and you would prefer him to stop.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (14 April 2016):
 hi,
you don't feel a real connection to him, in a way that would suit him.
There are many situations where A does not feel a connection with B yet B feels a strong connection with A.
I would suggest that you don't even try to speculate nor discuss, with him, about any boy you like or do not like. Because it is none of his business.
you can let him know that your priority remains your studies at the moment.
If he pushes for more information then give him a general answer but not much more.
for instance, depending on what activities do consume your time:
That your studies and sport(?) or family (?) or your other priorities keep you too busy to think of such things right now.
If he remains very persistent then speak to your school counsellor on a safe strategy to deal with his persistent crush.
Regards
Abella
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