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*lovebenni
writes:I started talking to this guy in June 09 and he kept wanting to take it further. when he i didnt want to until july i agreed to and we spent time together. he always called me when he could since he got his phone stolen on july 4th. we spent time on july 8 and we decided to be together that night. well i didnt hear from him for two weeks so i got worried and myspace was the only way i could contact him at the moment. i did everyday without a response then got tired and just hit his younger bro thats 21 on there to ask if he was okay. i really didnt know him just heard about him from my bf at the time so i asked. he said who was i? i said we were talking and i was worried... he was like talking as what? i felt weird with his questions so i let him know and he said well he got locked up July 9th at night and i may not ever see him again. he asked me for my number to tell me more so i agreed and gave it.well he told me so much about him that he talks to lots of girls and this and that. that he doesnt want me to get hurt by him. well i just wanted to be able to trust him so i just ignored it even though it bothered me and ended up writing him in jail. he got out at the end 0f july and called me. i asked him about what his bro told me and he denied it. in August we spent more time and i got him a celly and told him dont call any females on it i would know. well he said he wouldnt and i trusted him or tried to but he lied. he lied so much to me about everything like i thought his ex in Maryland was prego with his baby. well he then said she lied but when i got in contact with her she was never. now I broke up with him at the end of August and got my celly back in beginning of Sept. He was talking to more than one female and all he could say was all he did was talk to them. its not cheating but i dont see how that is if theyre calling him baby and saying i love you... and he was engaged to the girl in Maryland the whole time! I had females hitting me up about bs and it hurt me because I gave him whatever he needed or wanted and tried to trust him. We had so much drama because of his lies and his bro became close to me during the time and he hated it. His bro and him did not get along and its because of his ways. Anyway I just prayed to look past it all and forgive him after being scared that i might be prego from him recently but took a test and Im not! I kept in touch on myspace trying to be friends again and all. he never responded and I kept getting private calls and no one would talk on the other end for 2 months after. Finally he anwered my hellos on Oct 26 and we at talked a bit. he said he knows this may sound korny but he just doesnt know what to say to me anymore after everything... he asked me how i been and said he hasnt been eating alot lately again and hardly able to sleep too. he admitted to the calls that were private and hanging up on me when I say hello. its just been confusing for me lately because i dont know what to do with him. to be friends or what??? he just had a baby boy on Sept 29th!!! just seen the pix on his page and everything... its crazy but he seems to want to be friends now. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): What should you do, you ask. I'd say to forget about this man. He seems very immature, lied to you and to many other girls; is father of a baby to the woman he's supposedly engaged to - worse luck for her!
You're not pregnant by him, you have had a lucky escape.
Its not worth all the drama. As Aunty BimBim says, his responsibility now is to the baby and mother. You can encourage him to do that (not in words) but by simply refusing to have any more to do with him - though if he tries to insist, then tell him where his responsibilities lie, end of story, end of contact.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 This young man has a baby he needs to take care of, he also has too many girls on a string, I think you need to just forget about him, walk away, and find somebody who is happy with just one girl.
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