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*naVaiLiaVe
writes:im in a 2 and a half yr long distance relationship and things were going pretty well. we saw each other once a month or every 2 months after last yr. just recently he was acting strange and thinking that he is a failure and nobody wants him and really pushing me away he said his job is strssing him out and so is his family as his dad was in hospital and his mum told my bf she dont want him part of the family. i really want to help him and make him feel better but he is just pushing me away furthur and hardly talking to me, its really hurting me. he has really changed :( and he says that he dont wanna hurt me by getting me involved.even though i didnt want to i asked if him and me should just be friends for now until he gets better and he says yea it might be a good idea. he is hardly sleeping or eating and i hate him doing this to himself. he still hardly talks. he stopped telling me he loves me when he used 2 say it everyday. and it makes it harder coz of the distance. he nvr answers his fone.and theres another prob..i feel so unwanted and ugly now :( i get so lonely i just want someone to hold me close and comfort me and i think my head has gone abit funny now...i just turn to ppl i no from online(some guys)and i ask them to comfort me...now i feel like a tart :( i really dont wanna be but im just so lonely now...please help...?
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reader, UnaVaiLiaVe +, writes (8 September 2008):
UnaVaiLiaVe is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes that would be ok....but i want to be held close and comforted like my bf used to do..and i dont no what to do...
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reader, lilla  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Ok, I understand more why you feel so lonely. You need to connect with people and to do that you have made a tentative step here but you need it more on a face-to-face level. My first choice would be your immediate family, make an effort to get closer. I had lost touch with my sister awhile back, and since it's just her and I as siblings, I thought that was really crap. I was feeling like you are now, and I thought, why not make the first move? picked up the phone and called her. Today I can say she is truly my best friend. Maybe your family don't know how you are feeling and when they realise, they will give you the support you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): im not really close with my mum or family that much. i cant affort therapy or councelling coz i have no money coming in. i havent worked since last october and that has also got me down. i do talk with another girl online we just talk bout it and she trys and makes me feel better...i dont have many real friends
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reader, lilla +, writes (7 September 2008):
You sound depressed, I wouldn't worry about your boyfriend at the moment, it' sounds like you are the one who needs help. What about professional help like therapy? It's better than getting so-called "support" from thee "guys" that are actually making you feel woese about yourself. Through my experience with therapy (I attended one-to-one therapy for six months) it is beneficial and if I ever needed to again, I would go in a heartbeat. Do you belong to any religon or social group that can help you? What about your immediate family? You don't mention them, are you not close?
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