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writes:So I am engaged to be married to a man I have been with for almost 3 years. I love him whole heartedly and more than life itself, but we have some trust issues that recently came acrossed. I was promoted through my job so we had to relocate- I thought it was a good thing for us. Well he encouraged me, but as soon as I went to our new location to find house and set it up he stayed where we currently resided. Well I just recently found out that he had a secret relationship going the whole time he was there, and that was for nine months. He still is just "friends" with this person. He had the chance to walk away and leave me out of the picture because I am staying at my sister's house, but he continues to try to win me back. This is my first true love, can I just walk away from him after 3 years? Do I take him back and try to work through it? trust him again?
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You say he has had a secret relationship with someone and is still friends with them and this was going on the whole time you have been sorting out your new home hunny? I just needed to make sure Id got that right...Can you see yourself being with him and trusting him 100% after all this, If he still wants to get married and move with you can you see this happening without you worrying about the trust situation hun..He has had the choice to move on and walk away yes you are right but he also had the choice to say NO! I have a partner...It takes alot of work to regain the trust once it has been broken this way. Is he willing to go through this with you and are you willing to let this go. You must want to no the reasons behind this and the whys and what for when you had made these plans for marriage. You have to feel 100% sure you can deal with this love obviously talk with him alot and give yourself lots of time to think and really know if you can gain back the trust, Time for yourself is most important time to think not rushing back in hunny if it feels right you will no after you have talked and spent this time allowing yourself to really think about your situation and the futour with your partner. I hope things work out for you sweetheart WITH LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Your not married, you don't have any kids. You only been together three years. You got no reason to stay in a relationship with a cheater, there's a very good chance he'll cheat again, years more into the relationship.
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