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writes: Im 15 recently went out with a guy who i really liked and slept with him too. Except he dumped me a week after. I still like him and recently when weve been hangin out hes started cuddling me and gettin abit cosy with me. I dont know if he likes me now excpet i do know that he likes another girl but i still haven't really moved on from him... im a bit confused :S Reply to this Question
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reader, miss help +, writes (22 October 2006):
 tell him does he want you or this girl if he wants you make sure you go step by step don't rush in to things
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 October 2006):
 Don't do it!!! He slept with you and dumped you, you also know he likes someone else so why would you want to put yourself back into the situation to be used and dumped again?
Your underage to be having sex anyway, you made a mistake and thought this guy liked you and cared for you, he proved he didn't so don't make the same mistake again, in his eyes he got you into bed once and probably knows how you feel about him and thinks he can do it again but this guy doesn't respect you just sees you as someone that he can get what he wants from when he wants to.
Be friends with him if thats what you want but don't sleep with him.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (22 October 2006):
 I wouldn't trust him becacuse he has done it before you shuold flirt and give him the sack when he's mental after you then he will know how to treat a girllook for a good boy to ang around and have a good time not this sort of guy who doen't realise you0're under age for sex love
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reader, amandabrv +, writes (22 October 2006):
 Listen I have been in your same place and I ended up pregnant at 15.He doesn't know what love is they never do they only care about one thing(SEX)don't give it to him nomore,he will move on and you will see what he wanted all along!!Us girls always are looking for the one to love us and end up with idiots cause we are handing out our love in the wrong way!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): Hang out with him but don't go to bed with him again.
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reader, camille  +, writes (21 October 2006):
 Chances are he wants to have sex with you again and so as you're under age anyway, my advice is to stay away from him. It does sound like he's using you. A sad yet true fact is that most boys aren't too interested in girls who sleep wiht them easily, readily and quickly. You're too young for these mind games and the fact that he's messing with your head already, shows that you're not ready for the emotional side of a sexual relationship. Not that it necessarily gets much easier, but what's the rush? Wait and find a nice biy who really wants to be with you. Don't jump into bed with him either, take your time.
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reader, Simplicity +, writes (21 October 2006):
 First of all i dont want to lecture you but how old is your partner? As the legal age limit for sex is 16 years old and if this boy is over 16 he could get into serious trouble. This boy sounds like he wants the best of both worlds he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He knows that if he needs you you'll come running and thats exactly why he's keeping you on the edge. Dont you think from him sleeping with you and a week after dumping you he's sending you a message? If he is even thinking of another girl then he is definetly not worth it. I suggest to you that you move on because in the long run it sounds like he's just going to cause you more hurt than he already has. There is someone out there waiting for you but your young dont get tied down to quickly! Show the boy what he's missing and if he comes back to you blow him off ! I hope you take my advice good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2006): Ah, the road to love is never smooth, so sorry you are feeling confused first of all. Mostly, I have to say I think you are too young to be having sex with boys, especially those whom you barely know...Guys do not respect girls who sleep with them right away, which seems very confusing because they can really act in ways that make you feel like they are in love with you, but something funny happens, once the chase is over and you have put out, the guys get moody, you become less attractive to them and they loose both respect and passion for you...I would tell this guy who is again cozying up to you to either don't let the door hit him in the arse, or tell him you made a mistake by having sex with him too soon, and you are only interested in gaining his trust and respect through friendship and see if he returns the feelings that you have developed for him, if not get to know another guy first without sleeping with him, be his friend. There is a lot of peer pressure these days on young girls to be sexually active, and it gives you a sense of power and mastery over boys, because they will do what ever you want to get sex. This is an empty promise, however, and it leads to low self esteem, confusion, and emotional pain and drama that you do not need in your young life. Concentrate on your studies and learning who you are as a person and what your likes and dislikes are without the influence of your peers and sex and boys...you will mature into a young lady who respects and likes herself, and then you will be worthy of love and you will attract the right guy for you, because he will respect you and want to treat you with dignity and will appreciate the gift of sexual intimacy with you when the time is right.
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