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writes: How do we stop the affair? 11 months going ,sex 4 times a week ,but both are married to diffrent people not each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I dont think its as simple as stopping. Its the feeling you get when cheating that you get addicted to and not the person you are having the affair with. I dont understand it or know how to stop it. But it is the feeling you get that you end up falling in love with and not the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): i agree 200% you have to stop, as the affair has no future and only dimensihes your respect for ur own self. the male goes on
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): i am in a similiar situation. i love him.we have broken up on anumber of occasions but we always end up back together. we did make love but sex has nithing to do with it . we love each other.we even have a child together. my husband thinks it is his. what do we do? we have been together for 5 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): dont carry on i have done i and ou will only end up unhappy convincd you love your husband but cave the othr person so much. it messes ur head p ten at one point u and r lover start to see the affair in a differen light either one gets bored
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reader, bonym  +, writes (22 October 2006):
 Its simple, if you want to do something, you will do it. You will simply stop commiting adultery and walk away from this and regain some self respect. Simply say enough is enough, no more lies and cheating, just end it and work out whether you want a serious relationship or not. xXx
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 October 2006):
 If you love your husband and want to be with him then walk away from your lover.
There probably will never be a future for you and your lover as hardly any relationships that start out as an affair come of anything and if you and him did leave your partners and got together how long before he would be having an affair behind your back?
You've got to be strong and talk to your lover and tell him this can't go on then go home and try to work through whatever problem it was that caused you to start the affair in the first place.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Jayman +, writes (21 October 2006):
I am thinking from a male point of view,do you 2 want to stop ? I suppose there is more to this 11 months a long time and 4 times a week is alot of time spent together.Is there more feelings involved? I think maybe you both should sit down and ask each other what you both want from it all,then decide how to come clean to both your spouses.
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reader, Simplicity +, writes (21 October 2006):
 You talk about having this affair. But have you actually thought about why this affair started in the first place? Whether you stop the affair or not its wrong and even if you did finish it it may still end up biting you on the behind. My advice to you is to sit down with the person you are having a affair with and end it. However afterwards i suggest you sit down with your partner and talk because something obvioulsy isnt going right in your relationship for you to have a affair and i think you should with your partner figure out what it is. It is up to you whether you come clean or not but in the end not meaning to sound like a cliche but in the end honestly is indeed the best policy
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reader, shania +, writes (21 October 2006):
 Simple...you stop seeing him.Remember,its only sex that keeps you two seeing each other,it only gets complicated if you both start having feelings for each other.Tell him that its over because people are going to get hurt and then if he starts calling you or txting you then you just ignore them.Try and put the excitement back into your marriage,remember the time when you 1st met your husband? What made you fall in love with him?...make time for each other,its only because you both have taken each other for granted.
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