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writes:I'm involed with this man for the last 4mths when he asks me how do i feel about his, i gave him a postive answer and he says he doesn't feel that he feels confused, and doesn't know why. When we first started the relationship he was excited for me to meet with his mother ,which was away at the time.In the mean time i meet other family members and his friends. When i did meet mom she didn't aprove because of the fact she believes that he is Abandoning his 3 kids and their mother. They were separated for a year after being involed for all of youg lives. I also think it has something to do with his kids as well they asked about me. I believe it’s these facts that has him feeling this way. He said that he wanted me to know and it is now up to me. Is he just looking of the easy way out and does want to face the challenges or could he just want time to clear his mind? What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 First of all the mother. It must be hard on a mother to see what was once a happy family deteriate into what it has become, but she has to accept the way things have turned out; that is her problem. Whether or not she is influencing her son, I doubt it. If he is an individual, he will be able to make up his own mind based on HOW he feels and not by his family memeber.
Families can have an effect on how people make their choices no doubt, but he needs to realsie what he wants and not what his mother wants.
In what way did the kids ask about you? This could of been a positive thing, not just a character assasination.
You say he has left the ball in your court now? You have a mountain to climb if the way you describe things is true, but if you love him that should'nt be a factor if your strong enough for this. His priorites are split between his kids which are his life and his happiness for his future with you. I cant imagine how he feels, but he needs to be sure of what he wants and cant just let you decide without being 100% positive that he is going to do the best he can to make things work.
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