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female
age
36-40,
*eccccccy
writes: Hi everyone , Im a little confused over an incident that occured recently . There was a group of us going out for dinner and my boyfriend was driving ..we were one seat short , and seeing Im the smallest I jumped onto a male friends lap in the back seat . Now admitedly , I was wearing a very short skirt , and a rather revealing top , but I was shocked to feel our friends errection potuding strongly from his pants . Now my confession , after the initial shock , I really really liked it , I started deliberately moving backwards and forwards on it ..Acting like I was just talking to the group , I actually became really wet myself . But now i FEEL guilt ( I hate his feeling ) ..Do you think I cheated ? Should I tell my boyfriend ? , I think he would get angry , Im only young ..but Im so dam confused . Any other girls have things like this happen to them at some stage of life ? ..Thanks in advance Im REALLY DISTRESSED about it .
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reader, Beccccccy +, writes (2 May 2010):
Beccccccy is verified as being by the original poster of the question But that last answer kind of turns me on , I like the thought of him thinking about me , and even masturbating while he considers what it would be like to enter me ..Wow , What a turn on ...
But , you are correct I would just Deny Deny Deny , and act like I dont know what hes talking about . But boy , truly , I could sure feel it ..lol .
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): The power of the female body is a glorious thing we can use it as a tool of barter and trade to get what we want from men and they know it and mostly are happy to comply especially when it just might lead to sex. I see no shame that you have discovered such ability that makes you a woman.The guys whose lap you sat upon was probably embarrassed at first when you realized that he was turned on by you. He probably felt blessed that you gave him a moments attention in the car. He'll probably fantasize about you for months to come but what is done is done. Stop dwelling on it and move on. If he tries to bring it up which he won't deny it like hell and no one will believe him anyways.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 What you describe is 'power of sex'...yes it has that much power, it is like 'fire', it represent 'reason'...I am not going to condemn you like others but...invite your attention towards your 'will power'...which is creative, which make judgement, which make decision...I suggest you to trust your will power that will make your sex life more greater than you imagine. Sex is not bad, but bad choice can make life worst than bad, bad choice can ruin good relationship and attract bad and cheap element, which I wish to bring to your notice.
Every young person has great sex power, but they should put such power under the control of 'will power', which is part of sex power, which can make sex more romantic and colorful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): Hi, I think you are lying when you say you are "young", you are old enough to know what is appropriate and what is not. You enjoyed the ride, you know you cheated, you were acting like a tease, and you betrayed your bf. In the end there is no confusion, you will not be a faithful gf and before you destroy your relationship with your. Bf, end it, then you can ride whatever and whoever you want. You have no excuse for what you did and actively participated with another man. Strange you don't view this as something wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): dont tell your boyfriend he is not going to like that and he may percieve it in a wrong way. jus keep quiet about it. no one is gonna get hurt.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 You succumbed to the temptations and you could not control yourself. Do forgive yourself and do not judge yourself too harshly.
Learn from this incident and avoid such incidents in the future.
There is no advantage in telling your b/f as it will only make him angry and may cause a big row in your relationship.
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 You were wearing a short skirt and sat on a man's lap? What did you expect? Surely not surprise at the ensuing erection!
You felt flattered, and carried on th see what further effect you could have, which IS cheating, so you are right to feel guilty.
What to say or do about it? I hate to advise deception, but if you are SURE that it was a one-off and you have learned from this, keep quiet and hope he does. Owning up will cause unnecessary heartache for all concerned, for what was really only a bit of harmless fun during a night out in company - not as if you were alone and in a one-to-one situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): i agree with caringguy but in all fairnisss to you your bf did see you sit on your mates lap i a short skirtt soo you didnt reali cheat because you were with him there but then again you shouldnt of teased this other bloke, i wouldnt tell him but i would allso make sure he dont find out from this other boy because that could cause alot of trouble soo just leve it and dont do it again but it happens to everyone sooner or later .
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 May 2010):
Really you did kind of cheat. You were turned on by him and you teased him about it. I'm sure if you told your boyfriend he'd be living with your and the male friend. I wouldn't be pleased if I thought my girlfriend had been sat on a friend's lap enjoying his erection, teasing him about it and then getting turned on herself. However, you are feeling guilty, so you know it was was wrong. I'm not sure telling your boyfriend would really achieve anything other than to upset him and land you in serious trouble, to keep it to yourself. But clearly you need to make sure you're happy in your relationship and perhaps put more effort into it. And certainly don't do it again
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