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writes:I hope someone can help.My husband and I have hot sessions in the bed room department but my main issue is getting him to come.He prefers to be mega deep penetrating but I find it really uncomfortable.Does anyone have any advice on how to get him to come without it being deep or any help for me to get used to it... Reply to this Question
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reader, Cupiedet +, writes (18 October 2015):
Cupiedet is verified as being by the original poster of the question Before my husband and I got together as a couple his previous relationship was pretty dry and he masturbated to keep himself happy. When we got together due to religious beliefs we waited. Our wedding night was amazing and he came no problem. It seems the issue he has is when he is wearing a condom. I don't particularly like it much either cause I feel less intimate.Do other people feel the same way or is it just an each to their own thing. There are some occasions I can take him deep but others not so much. I'm not sure how to get a balance. When I'm on top he is deep and I don't a much pressure than when he is on top. Not really sure what is going on. We talk about this all the time and it doesn't bother us getting it on. It's just a bit of s killer cause when he hurts me it turns him off straight away he is flat.Thank for the advise so far ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2015): try positions that do not permit deep penetration.The internet is full of positions with graphics .Find a position that is satisfying for both of you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 October 2015):
 The reason it hurts on you is probably because he is hitting your cervix. THAT is pretty painful. And like YouWish mentioned HIM going "deep" is not necessary for him to climax. If you two have sex in missionary position, I'd switch THAT up with spooning for instance (he can't go as deep that way but it can "feel" just as deep) or with you on top - that way YOU are in control of how far in he goes.
I also agree that he needs to chill with the masturbation and you two need to use a LOT more foreplay.
I think a lot of men who had seen porn with the man "jack-hammering" the woman thinks that THAT is how it's suppose to be - considering that the average vagina is 3-4 inches deep and the average penis 6 inches you can see the "math" doesn't really match up. So no, not ALL 6 inches need to be inside you.
Sex shouldn't be painful for YOU, so HE can enjoy it. Where is the fun in that?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 October 2015):
 The glans of the penis is the primary seat of orgasm for the guy, so going mega-deep isn't that necessary. You could practice your kegels and grip really hard onto him as he's inside you. You should also dictate how deep he goes, because if he's hurting you, that's no fun for you!
I do agree to have him not masturbate, and then edge him for a bit until he's about ready to burst. He's too used to his hand, which is why he needs tons of stimulation. It's got nothing to do with virginity, because no virgin is as tight as Rosey Palm and her five fingers.
Edging him means to, BEFORE he starts intercourse, manually with your mouth or hand, bring him to the brink of orgasm without going past the point of no return. That way, after the fifth or sixth time, then start intercourse and he should blow like a chimney faster and with more intensity without jackhammering you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 October 2015):
 No you should not do anything you are uncomfortable with. Cumming should not be a struggle for either of you. If there is a reason why people prefer virgins, this is it. They don't want to do anything their exes did or their view of sex influenced by them.
My husband likes cuckold fantasies but I don't. He grew to rely on it to come. My solution was not have sex for a while until he's backed up that it just had to overflow. Luckily he did not complain but was happy that we could enjoy sex when it feels natural. You can go deep once in a while but it shouldn't be the only thing that makes him cum. Men who really love you would understand that you are not a tool to make him bust. You are a person with feelings and you have a say on how you like your sex.
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