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22-25,
anonymous
writes:I have a bit of an issue. I met this guy about 4 - 5 years ago. We connected instantly, spoke daily and he went out of his way to talk to me. 4 or 5 years into this friendship, feeling developed. We spoke more and more and even met up a few times. He went on and on talking about how perfect I looked and how badly he wanted me. We had a few encounters where we kissed and things for a bit heated.4 months ago - in April - , we met, talked a lot, kissed and had sex.He kissed me before he left - and I have not heard from him till June when I ran into him at the store. He looked almost startled...We texted after that and agreed to meet the next day. The next day came -he texted me and said he can’t make it.That was still June...I have not heard from him since. I made the mistake of texting him and asking if he is ok - never got an answer.Clearly he is avoiding me. I am somewhat heartbroken. I feel that was a jerk move on his part...but I can’t stop thinking about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to move on. Please don’t say just forget him - it’s easier said than done. I am not suffering from amnesia - so forgetting something or someone is rather hard. Thanks in advance.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 July 2018):
 There you go, OP!~
You probably won't ever really "forget" him but you will come to a point where you just don't give a flying fart about him and.... hopefully learn to not repeat the same mistake with another guy.
His loss, OP - remember that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2018): Ladies,
I went in my contacts and deleted him. I HAVE to move on. Maybe, I can just view him as another notch on my bed post? Fuck him!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (30 July 2018):
 Use this as a lesson to never have sex outside a loving stable relationship unless all you want it sex.
Words are cheap. This guy just saw you as a goal, a target. Once he had had what he wanted, he was done with you. He was never interested in anything other than adding another notch to his bedpost.
Hold your head up high, take a deep breath and decide today is the day you are going to move on and put this down to experience. No, you won't magically forget him, but you CAN learn to accept YOU were as much to blame for what happened, that YOU sold yourself cheap, that YOU could have stopped this happening and that YOU have learned a valuable lesson and will not fall into the same trap again.
Stop contacting him. He wants nothing more to do with you. If you bump into him, hold your head up high, give him a smile and a nod and walk past.
You have given this jerk enough room in your head. Far too much, in fact. Evict him and move on with your life. He is not worth it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 July 2018):
Sorry OP,
Having sex was a mistake. Are you sure he doesn't have a GF?
The thing is you can be mad at him for having sex with you and then ghosting you, but you were OK with the sex, you just had different expectations AFTER the sex.
My suggestion? LEARN from this. If someone is your FRIEND for 4-5 years and nothing really romantic happens, no asking you out on a date, to dinner or whatnot, then he ISN'T interested in dating you or having you as his GF. He might (like this guy) have sex with you... but you are not what he wants as a partner.
So in his eyes you were good enough to screw, but not good enough to date. OR he actually HAS a GF that he hasn't told you about. And when he saw the change to boink you, he did. Of course if he has a GF he cut the contact.
My second advice? BLOCK his number. He might try and use you as a booty call when he is bored.
I'm so sorry OP he just isn't as into you as he SAID he was. His words were empty but ... they did get you to jump in bed with him.
Some guys will say whatever they think you want to hear in order to have sex with you.
Next time, don't have sex with a guy who is "just" a friend or someone you talk to.
Sure, it's not super easy to forget someone, but you can decide if you want to keep a GUY who TREATED you this way, in your life or not.
Personally, I'd say sayonara loser! block, delete and move on.
Why? Because I would not let some twat treat me that way.
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