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writes:ive been in and out of relationships with this guy for about a year and 4 months now. At the moment we are seeing eachother practically dating just without the title. and yes we do hav sex. ive talked to him about gettin bakc together and making it official but he told me that hes afraid of commitment and doesnt really feel the same way i feel and cant give me what i want...i dont know what to do cuz i love him so much and we are so close to eachother like no secrets or anything and its confusing me cuz i dont know how he feels cuz if he didnt feel the same why then why does it upset him so much not seeing me? do you think that maybe hes just using me for sex? i was his first everything, first girlfriend and first eveything hes done even sexwise. so i dont kno what to do cuz at one point a few months back we wer dating but in secret cuz of his 'mum' and now we not even dating but his parents pretty much know and same with everyone else... please help me! :s Reply to this Question
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reader, uraqt9697  +, writes (25 August 2008):
You get what you ask for. If you are looking for a relationship and he cannot provide this, and you are looking the other way and trying to convince yourself that he'll change his mind then he is going to keep saying he "cant be in a relationship"
If that's okay with you, then it shouldnt matter whether he is using you for sex or not, because sex without a relationship is well, just sex and companionship, and not a relationship.
If you have deep feelings for him, you should consider telling him that you want a relationship, or you're going to end the sex. If he's really into you, he will change his mind fast.
If you feel like you're truly being used, walk away.
I wish you the best!
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (25 August 2008):
 it sounds like he just likes staying in the "fuck buddies" relationship. you are maybe the most convenient person in his life at the moment... he gets the love, support, SEX all without any sort of commitment. is he giving you anything back? are you guys at least exclusive?
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