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writes: I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He's the sweetest guy you could find.. the guy every girl calls "Mr. Right." But lately I'm finding that he can do whatever he pleases, but I need his permission. If I want to hang out with a friend, he has to know who, why, and where. If he wants to hang out with a friend, he asks if it is alright; but if I object he says I'm being unreasonable. He also told me that I'm not allowed to learn to ride a dirt bike because he doesn't want me to. He told me He rides dirt bikes and I sing, so I should stick with singing. I feel very controlled. Am I just being paranoid? He gets very jealous when I speak to guy friends.. and I'm only allowed to listen to him. am I just looking too deep into things?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 November 2005):
 You are 3 months into this relationship and you are unhappy. Walk away, dear. Things aren't going to get any better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2005): I think you have a "mr. Wrong" there, dear. If you are having red flags about this guy's behavior-take serious note of that-your mind and your heart is trying to tell you the truth about what is going on, so never, ever doubt own better judgement. I can understand why you would be concerned about this fellow because he is a "controlling caretaker" type of guy and men like this, definitely do not make good boyfriend/partner material. His behaviours are telling me, he is not a 'potential' and as far as potential goes-- I always say "Don't fall in love with potential. Either they got the goods now or they don't. How long can you wait on potential?" If your relationship is 'only' 3 months old, I hate to think what he'll be like in a year?! Please rethink this relationship and listen to your inner voices, hun. This guy is overstepping the boundries here, in the worst possible way. He is a controller...back away as far as you can get. Good Luck, hun and be careful.
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reader, rn_bound04 +, writes (10 November 2005):
Not at all! This sounds like he is very controlling. A relationship will only work if both parties give 100%. If he doesn't want you to do something then he shouldn't do it. That's only fair...you know "what's good for the goose is good for the gander" Stick to your guns chick, and don't let this man run your life. If he really loves you he will understand you standing up for yourself!
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