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writes: I have been with my fiance for three years and about a year and half ago i cheated on him...i told him and he forgave me. he recently left to the army and i cheated again! not because i dont want him, because i love him. i just made the worst mistake i cant take back! i love him and want to be with him....should i tell him before we get married(2 weeks) or never? or after? i dont want to lose him and im afraid he will leave!
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reader, laura ann +, writes (2 December 2006):
 It will break his heart. If there is no way it will come out by someone else then keep it to yourself. But it your afraid someone else will let slip, then you'll have to tell him yourself, or live for the rest of your life not knowing if he will somehow find out and that does't sound like fun!
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (1 December 2006):
 If you do tell him, most likely he'll leave you as its super likely that you'll do it again some time in the future. Personally I think you should tell him and let whatever happens to happen. Its just so dishonest and stuff to get married with this on your conscience.
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (1 December 2006):
 How many times are you still going to cheat on him (and expect him to forgive you) for you to be satisfied with a monogamous relationship with him?
Because if I was him, I wouldn't take you back the second time (although I would've had a pretty hard time taking you back the first time). But again that's up to him.
If you don't tell him well in advance of the wedding, he's going to feel that you've waited to trap him in a trustless marriage, then he might definitely run.
Closing thought, why did you cheat on him at all?
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reader, lonleyheart +, writes (1 December 2006):
 well to be honest hun i think that you should tell him and be honest i'm sure that if he loves you he will forgive you againand he won't wanna leave ya as long as he loves you and you be hinest with him then all should forgotten and forgiven
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