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writes:Well I have a boyfriend And I have been with him for 1 week. And The other Night , I was at his house and He kinda pressured me to have Sex with Him. Im 14 years old and I wasnt ready but He Forced me to do it. I dont feel right now and Im emotional Upset about it. I feel like its ruined my life and I have nightmares + flashbacks because He was horrible when He forced me.I dont know who to tell.And I love him and Dont want to break up with him.What Shall I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Awh honey I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you - this is rape and it needs to be sorted out right away. First of all, break it up with him! Spare nothing. Tell him damn straight that he can't do that to ANYONE, let alone you. He disrespected your privacy and was a total prat. Let him know exactly how mad you are about this! So yes, finish him. Then if you feel comfortable, talk to your parents. If you'd find that too hard, then there are hotlines for this type of thing, and even the police. Rape is a serious crime and needs to be dealt with! Make sure he doesn't get away with this again honey.
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reader, Msblessed  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 you were raped and you need to brake it off with him. If he cared for you at all he would not have done that. i understand that you like and your confused and hurt, but that's why you need to distant yourself away from him. he shouldn't have forced you to have sex. you should tell a parent or family member and if your not comfortable with that then you should tell a close friend. But I definetely think you should talk to somebody about it.
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (5 May 2008):
 I am sorry but you were raped and a sick demented person like that does not deserve your love. And if you all have only been together a week it isn't love honey. I am sorry to say that but you are just realy into him that's all. But anyway, you should realy tell someone even if it's not anyone who can take the proper actions that need to be taken, it will just help you feel a lot better. Also men who are like this are often the type to end up physically abusing you later so get out while you can please. if you stay with him you will only resent him for what he has done, and it will just get worse. Please I am realy hurt knowing that this has happened to you I feel so sad for you, if you need to talk to someone I am here just send me a message. Take care of yourself. You are special.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 Oh sweetie.
First of all, it is never, ever, ever, EVER in a million years ok for someone to force you to do something that you don't want to do. Do not EVER let someone (especially a guy) make you feel like less of a person because you have principles and are saying no and being safe.
Secondly, the advice you have already been given is very good advice. Definitely go and get some help from an adult you trust. As for this other idiot, cut him out of your life completely. Don't answer his calls, don't answer his e-mails, just ignore him. He does not exist to you. Because let me tell you, if he'll do that to you, he's not even worth the dirt on the bottom of your shoes.
Lastly, keep in mind that THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You did not want it and it was forced on you. So do NOT blame yourself. If you take nothing else from this advice, I want you to remember that, ok? I'll be praying for you.
masq
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reader, oneeyeopenoneeyeclosed +, writes (5 May 2008):
My heart goes out to you. I know it's hard, but you really do need to follow the advice of Waz and Smeedle and contact either a counselor or the rape crisis centers that Waz recommended. It may be difficult now, but it will be better in the long run if you seek out help. Remember, nothing ever ruins your life, things just change it. A horrible thing happened to you, but it won't ruin your life unless you let it. Get yourself the help you need.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (4 May 2008):
 You need to not see him again and you need to tell a teacher, parent or someone else you can trust.
What he did was very very wrong and it is against the law to force someone into sex, let alone someone your age, how old is he?
You will need some counselling to get you over this trauma, this can be arranged through the school, or doctor or Brook advisory which deals with young people in such situations.
Please do not see this bloke again, you may feel you love him but let me tell you, he does not and will never love you, he just wanted you for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): you have been raped. tell an adult if you are having nightmares, as it is probably post traumatic stress. you need to seriously consider talking to a therapist.
please do not continue seeing your current boyfriend, he is not emotionally stable and needs therapy as well, I'd wager.
you're not ruined for life, but things could get very bad if you don't act soon. get out of the relationship.
Please get yourself some help.
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