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anonymous
writes:hey!there is this guy.let me call him X.well,X and i live in separate ocuntries but we talk via mail,msg etc everyday.he doesnt call me often and neither do i.our families know each other and i used to think of him as a n elder brother..but does he think of me like a lil sister?he always cancels his plans when i go to his country..and drives 250 kms just to come meet me,he puts his arm around my shoulder,he almost always has his hand in my hair(now..i know i have good hair but none of my previous bfs have done that).he seems to care soo much that i feel so loved whenver i am with him,i started to fall for him in december last year and somehow i cant shake off the connection between us..how can i know without asking him directly that he is serious about me or only sees me as a sister?i really need advice.thx for answering
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (23 June 2008):
Yeah, he doesn't want to hear you talk about other men... because he likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe changes the topic when i try to talk about some other guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Take a flower, and pull the petals off one at a time. Start off with "He loves me" for the first one, and "He loves me not", for the next. Keep puling until you have pulled off the last petal, if you end up with "He loves me", well, you know that he does. Count them first to make sure that you have an odd number of petals to begin with. This will ensure that you end up with "He loves me". I'm sure he does. This is just a fun way to find out.
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (20 June 2008):
Sounds to me like he likes you, grant it I don't know anything more then you tell me. First of all I have never known guys to put their arms around somebody they don’t fine sexually appealing. I would never put my arm around my real sisters, let alone somebody who I think of a little sister and isnt related to me. As for the hair thing, it could be his thing. Everyone has a "Fetish" for me I love eyes which means I tend to look into girls that I likes eyes. For him he might really like hair, or you just have Gorgeous hair. Another indicating factor is you guys talking so much. I don't talk more then once every two weeks to my family. Him going that far out of his way to see you? I would say that im 95% sure he likes you, and not as a sister figure. As for asking him, this might sound lame but talk to him with "hints", for instance ask him if he likes anyone right now, etc. Look him in the eye and read body language if you have eye contact and his eyes tend to stray tward your mouth and then back he wants to kiss you.
On top of that you could ask him for advice about this guy you like a. watch the reaction and b. without making it completely abvious describe him, see if he puts things together.
But if I were you, I would just out right tell him. I know it sucks but even a "No" is better then not knowing.
Hope that helped,
-Cris
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