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41-50,
*eather1
writes:This guy i work with keeps fist bumping me for no reason. He keeps saying my name whenever I walk by. Keeps saying 'good job', in a funny way, even though he hasnt deen what I did or didnt do. I ask why he just says stuff like that, he awkwardly says "you're awesome". I've seen him staring at me a couple time. Last time with his head tilted back eye almost closed. He would playfully grab my arm or my waist and, sometimes use our names together when saying something random. His GF came in recently to our job. He wouldnt look at me or help me. He barely even spoke to me. He is closer friends with a couple female friends at work, who has a crush on him. I am way older than him. They are in his age group. He fist bumps me at least 7 times during our work shift everyday.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 July 2015):
 Awww the poor guy is throwing a tantrum because you aren't bending over backwards to "adore" and "worship" him... Seriously he needs to grow up.
He is just an attention monger... nothing else. And the fact that he HAS a GF.... Yes, I'd avoid getting too cozy with that one.
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reader, Heather1 +, writes (23 July 2015):
Heather1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday, Ive been out of it so to speak. Like keeping quiet and to myself as I work. And he keeps coming up to me wanting to kmow if Im ok and says he needs to hear my voice, etc. Even after I told him I was fine, he kept badgering me to tell him why Im quiet and "sad". He kept asking in sensrios to see what was "wrong". In just kept telling him that it was nothing and each time I walking away from him. All the while Im thinking 'why is this his business?'. During this time, I hear him slamming down things on tables as he worked.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 July 2015):
 Well if he has a girlfriend he cherishes then I guess he's just a natural born flirt. Do like Honeypie suggests, Don't read anymore into it. If he were truly interested he certainly would let you know in no uncertain terms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2015): Today. He randomly grabbed me. Then, massaged my shoulders. He does seem to have a crush on one of our coworkers who always come up to talk to him.she's awesome btw. He has a GF though whom he cherishes. Which is weird. There is a tad n0bit. difference in how he treats me. Like times when he gets serious. And he got frustrated that i kept changing my hairstyle. I was the first person that was introduced to him at work to show him the ropes. I noticed from then he leans in towards me when i'm talking.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 July 2015):
I think he just likes attention from the females. The more girls "sighing" over him the more "manly" he feels.
If he has gotten used to the younger crowd of girls all "crush" on him he might be trying to include you in his little bunch of girl who think he hung the moon. He may not have been very popular in school and feel like he is "Da Man" with all the girls mooning over him at work.
If you feel the fist bumping is weird (I do) I'd just not return the gesture. You can still be polite and professional without the fist bumping.
I wouldn't read more into it.
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