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writes:I was sort of seeing "guy A" for a about a month and a half. He was great, other than the fact that he lives nowhere near me, so dating on the regular, thus creating an emotional attachment, was just not going to happen.He is really good friends with another friend of ours, who happens to be the fiance of one of my best friends. He's very sarcastic, which I love, but his tone takes it a bit overboard, so he ends up sounding condescending. I'm not a fan of that. As well, unfortunately, I felt no passion with him and I think part of it is because he has no true ambition."Guy B" I find very attractive, intelligent, at least a little sure of himself (he's got an engineering degree and he's actually utilizing it). Unfortunately, he's quite shy and I'm... not. He also is a very good friend of my close friend's fiance. I think I'm more concerned with upsetting THAT guy.The issue? I told guy A that I wasn't feeling it with him anymore and an hour later, I ended up making out with guy B in front of guy A. That was not planned in any way, shape, or form. I feel like a huge bitch; I'm NOT that chick and yet, I somehow became her. Do I apologize to guy A for that? He commented about it after I got up off the couch and I just looked at him incredulously, because he was kind of right.I have no idea what to do. I'm very new still to single life, so I'm still very much navigating and testing out the waters.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 July 2015):
 Don't apologize, not so long after the event. You could have said sorry then and there, after he commented to you about it. Or you could have been more discreet about it when you wanted to kiss guy B. But, I don't get why you would kiss guy B if you now claim you don't really like him. Sounds to me like you do like him, after all.
Anyway, you should absolutely not apologize. Guy A is not a guy you will be spending tons of time with, you might just happen to run into him from time to time. If you happen to meet him again, and the time is right, then you might slip an apology in. But don't go out of your way to do it. He's a grown man, he can handle it. Just take it as a lesson learned.
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