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writes:HiyerMy bf lives in Scotland and I live in South England.WE met when he was down here visitin a mate nd we get on well together.he called me three or four nights ago and said that he was feeling so down coz he can't come to see me at the mo cos he has family probz. We havent met in lyk 2 months now. I don't mind because I lyk him 2 much, Im gonna wait til hes sorted and then he can come c me or I can go c him. But he feels bad coz he feels that he shud see me a lot mor nd he was gonna break off with me coz he felt bad bout it. I said that if I wasnt worf the risk, he didnt want me badly enuff and he changed his mind, but is still unhappy. Is der anyfin I can do to show him how much I care about him and how much I want dis to work??????? And that I dont care if he cant see me now coz I'm happy to see him whenever? Please help, Id on't wnna lose im. Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Long distance relationships are hard, but they can work. I've been with my guy for 3 years and it hasn't been the easiest relationship but I wouldn't change it for the world (well apart from being 7 months pregnant and moving in together in a couple of weeks).
There will be times when you both get low and want to be together and it'll hurt like hell cause you can't. But if you both really care and trust each other, you can ride through it.
My partner used to send me text messages full of romantic or silly things when I was feeling low.
Tell him that he shouldn't be feeling bad and you really don't mind. This is going to sound horrible but his families problems should come first before a relationship that has only been going 4 months.
As long as you both trust each other not seeing each other should be ok. Me and my guy went through a faze of about 4 or 5 months we didn't see each other and man it hurt like hell, but we got through it. We wrote letters to each other and spoke on the phone, and sent so many bloody text messages. It felt like it would never end, but it did.
Why not buy him a little something and send it to him as a surprise. A little teddy bear with your perfume sprayed on it, or a card with how you feel written in it. It'll be a nice surprise for him and show that you care.
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reader, Ladyme  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 Just explain exactly how you feel and how much your willing to wait for him. If that doesn't work theres not much you can do. Maybe its just to hard for him, maybe he thinks it would be easier to break it off because of the way he is feeling. I know it must be hard not seeing ecahother in a while but just let him know how you feel and reasure him that you will wait and you will do whatever it takes. I wish you all the best of luck hun xxxx
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