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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and every now and then he would end the relationship with me, for no apparent reason then a few hours or a day or so later he would call me and carry on like nothing has happened. I have tried to explain what effects his behaviour has on me but he fails to acknowledge my feeling, he feels that he hasn't done anything wrong and that I take things too serious. I'm now left with very low self esteem. MY head is telling to run for the hills but my heart says something else. I'm so desperate for your advice j
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 Well,either NEXT time ( I'm sure that won't be a long time from now) he dumps you, BLOCK his number, delete his number and unfriend/block/remove him from social websites.
OR.... YOU pick up the phone and tell him, I'm done dating a yo-yo like you. I want nothing further to do with you. I wish you the best, and I'm going no contact so leave me alone.
And then you block/delete.... etc.
YOU are actually in charge of HOW he treat you. And since you aren't happy with it DON'T ALLOW it.
He is manipulating the FIRE out of you. Making you feel like YOU aren't good enough, that YOUR feelings don't matter - and down the line (if you stay in this ridiculously unhealthy relationship) you WILL start to believe that you are, OH SO lucky that HE will have you.
Come on, what advice would you give you BEST female friend if her BF pulled this on her? You would tell her to KICK him to the curb and NEVER look back, right?
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