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writes:Hi guys,So basically, I've been seeing this guy for some 6 months. It started out casual and then became serious (more for him than me) but I genuinely like(d) him.Basically, yesterday we were talking about how excited we were to see each other and he was just being into me as always. We'd kind of gotten to a place where we were comfortable with being happy together. You know the kind of guy everyone except you can clearly see is in love with you. Yes.Fast forward to this afternoon, we were supposed to spend the evening together and I checked on him (he was drunk yesterday - I couldn't join him because I had work - and told me he adored me - in a matter of fact way- ending with 'good night my angel') and he couldn't make it because of an emotional reason to him. Naturally I was upset and he kept telling me how sorry he was for making me upset.I had planned a surprise for him so I updated my status saying there was a free strip tease session available amongst other funny jokes - so quite generic.Well... He deleted me off BBM (as well as my sister) and Facebook (and my two friends). I called him immediately (no reply) and then text him after wards saying he didn't have to do this and he should tell me why.His reply 'Sorry. I have to. Good luck baby'I replied saying he didn't have to esp if he cared about me like he said and that he should calm down and he had my number if he wanted to talk to me and I'd check on him sometime soon.Later I sent him another text message saying I was bothered that he could go from telling me he adored me to removing me from his life... He replied saying 'Everything means too much. And we are going somewhere he isn't willing to go and it isn't fair on either of us'I thanked him for this and told him it means a lot to me too and that he shouldn't be a stranger and to enjoy the weekend. The end.He replied 3 hours later with 'I will. I love you. Goodluck X' First time he's said it to me.Really? I love you - that is such a present tense thing to say. He is not a say things for the sake of it person. Never has been so I think he wanted to let me know. My friends think he wants me to fight for him. But good luck (with your life I assume) - It's all so confusing. They also think he's done this because I don't appear to like him as much as he does meI sent him a text the next day that in light of what we said I want us to fix this and I'll give him space and time then check to see how he feels.I know no one can tell me exactly what's happened or what is going on in his head but I'd appreciate perspectives on this and possibly advice on how to proceed.I am considering giving him a week or so to miss me and then just check on him.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (3 June 2012):
 The guy sounds like a bit of a flake. He's getting drunk, calling you his angel, and then flaking out because of an "emotional" reason, only to have him delete you and your friends from his network without so much as a discussion?
He sounds flaky. Better make it longer than a week, stop making jokes online about strip teases, and find someone else more mature and less soppy.
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reader, minaa001 +, writes (3 June 2012):
minaa001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think that was the problem...I always put random, sarcastic facebook statuses (usually not about him). So by and large, he won't have conclusively thought it was directed at him- or if he did he'd think I was upset. He knew how upset I was.
I'm pretty sure he loves me. I just don't know what has triggered this. I'm thinking maybe he's done something bad (probably slept with another woman - he thinks cheating is unforgivable) and can't deal with me knowing :S.
I am lost for what has happened tbh
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 June 2012):
 Did he see your post about "free striptease" and perhaps think you meant that for someone else? That you were "pimping" yourself out to "punish" him for not being able to show up as planned?
I think the two of you suffer from SERIOUS miscommunication. If you DO plan on talking to him about your relationship, I suggest you do it FACE-to-FACE not on FB, not in texts or on the phone. HAVE A REAL conversation. Maybe then you two can clear up what there is really going on.
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