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writes:Really interested in how common it is for women to ejaculate? I have never been a 'squirter' and I know guys definitely love it from posts I have seen online.Starting to feel now that I have a problem.I don't always orgasm with a guy either, have done with a few long term boyfriends in the past, but I find that one nighters don't usually have the patience so it doesn't happen. Which is ok with me, but do they feel offended afterwards?Wish I knew how to orgasm quicker.
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (3 June 2012):
 You have a lot of questions in this post - I'll try to be as helpful as I can.
How common is female ejaculation? Short answer: I don't know - but I don't think it's very common. Yes, some men like to be with women who ejaculate because it's a huge turn-on, but the reality is the men who've been with such a woman is also rare.
There are websites and videos touting the ability to teach men who make their women ejaculate, or "squirt". There are some people who state it works while others say it doesn't.
Why do you feel like you have a problem? Because you can't squirt? Please don't judge yourself according to the abilities of others. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself to do something men see (mostly) in porn videos. It's not fair to you.
There are lots of women that don't orgasm with each sexual encounter. There are also women that don't orgasm with any sexual encounter (or at least haven't done so yet). Female orgasm is much different and more complex than the male orgasm, there seems to be more tied into the female orgasm (for most women) which would explain why you have only had orgasms with long term partner vs one night stands. I don't think too many men are offended if the women they're having sex didn't have an orgasm - especially one night stands.
Learn your body and what feels best for you. Communicate that to your partners during and sex and really focus on the sensation and pleasure. You might not reach orgasm faster every time, but it certainly can help.
Hope this helps.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 June 2012):
 The kind of ejaculation you are asking about is very uncommon, but I know that many woman do emit a small amount of fluid during an intense orgasm. It is typically too small an amount to notice.
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