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writes: Can someone who has cheated and lied so much really change?I was a in a long distance relationship for three years. We could not handle the distance anymore so decided to end it. After a year he came after me and we resumed where we left off. We were making plans to get married. But I then found out accidentally that he had been living with another woman just after we met. In the year that we were apart it had become more serious with him making similar plans of marriage with her. She knew all about me but i knew nothing of her. I was devastated and he dropped me without any explanation for his actions to salvage what he has with her. Now almost a year later he has been trying to contact me again. Saying how much he still loves and misses me. And the only reason he was with her was because she was in the same country as him. Why is he doing this? I am trying to resist him but to be honest I still love him. I need help to think clearly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006): i had this in a previous relationship. he was living with someone, which i found out accidentally when his mum answered his phone and told me he was engaged! as it turned out, he was trying to get out of the relationship but his "fiancee" was manipulative and wouldn't leave their shared home. she even contacted me to find out if i was still with him. seems this could be a similar situation but being in different countries he may have just thought it would be easier for him to stay with the other woman than to commit to a long distance relationship. tell him you want to be with him but he has to make a permanent choice. if he's with you, he's not with her and if he chooses her then you don't want any contact with him at all.
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