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writes: I was committed in a relationship for 2 1/2 years, everything was great, but then all of a sudden 3 months ago, my boyfriend tells me that he needs time to focus on starting a new business and he ended the relationship... I WAS SHOCKED!!!. I had a very hard time, I was very depressed. Fortunately, with the help of my friends and family I was able to move on, thinking I would never see him again. Then last week, out of the blue, he calls me and we end up talking for about 3 hours, in the middle of the conversation he told me that he is aware that he made a mistake, that he loves and misses me and regrets breaking up, and that the real reason is that he realized the relationship had to move forward and that I was ready, but he wasn't and he got scared. I think everybody deserves a second chance, he was the love of my life, always very good to me and I still have feelings for him, but on the other hand, I am really scared that he freaks out and break up again. He asked me to meet this Friday, I have agreed because I want to make sure that we want the same now... a formal relationship, and if he does.... I do not want to play hard or anything, but just make it clear that he better think twice before doing hurting me again because there is no way he will get a third chance.Please help!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): I'm actually kinda in the same boat. Girlfriend and I were doing fine for 2 1/2 years and just the other week she tells me she doesn't want to see or talk to me anymore. She wouldn't give me a reason at first but then just tells me she needs her space. Well i kept thinking it was about another dude she worked with, but she kept telling me she was just a friend. I would do anything for this girl and I love her with all my heart. But i'm not gunna lie, the shit she put me through the last couple weeks maybe me re-think the whole relationship. Now she wants to see me and have things back to how they use to be. I say we both give them another chance because you know as much as I do that your still deeply in love with this guy. Take it slow, don't give him all of your heart again until you know he deserves it. If you realize then thats its just not going to work out then you know for sure that its over and you can forget about this person and move on with life. No regrets, no second thoughts. 2 1/2 years is worth another chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): Just take it slower, be a bit more cautious, but not paranoid! It's really up to you - what do you REALLY want? If you can answer that, then awesome, you've completed step one!
You know, your question pops up about a million times a day, so if you think about it, there will always be a good chance to get hurt again. Then of course, there is also a chance to be happy or happier again too! It's the facts of the world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): the exact same thing [[almost]] happened to me.i would say to give him one more chancebecause that's what i did.and now we're still together and doing AMAZING.Just give it one more chance, and if it doesn't work than i'm sorry for wasting your time, but i really think it will.
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