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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My exboyfriend of 2 years and I have been broken up for 9 months and I still cannot get over him. He completely broke my heart and has destroyed my self esteem. How do I get past all the anger and start to respect myself again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): The first thing you need to do here is take some of the power back; acknowledge your part in this relationship. Even if he did destroy your self-esteem, that didn't just happen overnight. You allowed him to treat you badly, and you're still giving him head space now!
So, acknowledge that you shouldn't have let him treat you the way he did. Then accept that the relationship was not a good one for you anyway, and it's better that it's over. Find what's good in your life: friends, family, hobbies, work, education, music etc... whatever! Concentrate on the things that give you pleasure. I'm sure you're not deriving much pleasure from going over and over the past. It's time to accept what happened, resolve to never let it happen again, and live your life from now. Starting today!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): theres no sure fire way to get over a partner.. trust me i wish there was.
in life theres always going to be one or two partners who brake your heart, maybe more and with age and experience it still never gets any easier..it always hurts. you feel rejected,alone and feel theres a whole where there didnt used to be.
the only thing is time, but this time cant be spent dwelling. get out there, go shopping with friends,go out sociallising, enjoy being single again.. you never know you might find an even nicer guy.
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reader, Shelley-jade  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Hunny go shopping treat yourself to a little something. Go out on a girlies night, Get all dressed up, put bit of make up on.
Let yourself go. Start afresh
Dont let a man drag you down hunny.
Good luck and all my wishes
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