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writes:I have just been dumped after a relationship of 17 months. I met him just as he hit on a very difficult time in his life financially and was very reticent to get involved at first. But i did. i stuck with him through the hard times and fell head over heals. I was all ready to move in and live happily ever after when he started acting strangely. He had sold a car to a girl he was working with and then she kept turning up at his house. Then one night i was out with the girls and i had text telling me he had had 'sex' with someone else!! I was absolutely devastated. I trusted him with my heart and my soul. Loved him, fancied him still. Now he is with her. And the hardest part is that he lives next door and i can see/hear everything that goes on. I feel so hurt but i still don't hate him. I can't sleep at night thinking she is next door with him. Please help before i lose my sanity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help and i did feel a bit stronger for a little while!! It's been 3 weeks now but it doesnt seem to be getting any easier. Actually went on a date but after one glass of wine i started comparing him with my ex and then started getting all tearful - disaster. I have been trying to keep busy but at the end of the day i have to come home. And that's when my imagination starts running riot as his bedroom is right next to mine. Any little noise stops me from sleeping. I was physically sick the other night because i got myself in a mess thinking about him being with her. I just cannot believe he is doing this to me when i did nothing to him? If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this please let me know x
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Wow be glad that piece of crap man moved on. That is just wrong. He most likely had no intentions of having a fully committed relationship with out. Most likely he won't with her either. I know that doesn't help you much now, but be glad that you found out before you moved in with him.
Forget him, he isn't worth a pot to piss in.
Move on with your life.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (2 January 2009):
it hurts l know but be glad you get to know him before it was too late.
move on with your life,go out with friends and have fun.
if you feel like crying,cry.
the pain will go away in time
if you have another place to go-do so-it will ease the pain and help you move on.
don't worry everything happens for a reason
and as they say 'when one door closes another opens'
it will be okay
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