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writes:Hello -me and my boyfriend broke up recently, we only dated for a couple of months but it was really goodmet over summer but we were both going to uni so stopped it there. got back together over christmas and were content in making it work, both of us even though we were at far apart places. it was mutual - that it wasnt working but before i acted on it i got an email from him, breaking up, it wasnt blunt or rude it was just cowardly. and all about how he felt. he said to call if i wanted to chat, and we will still see each other when were homeHave not spoken since, were both home for easter for a month, and its his birthday. i dont know whether to build bridges and at least wish him well then. I would just like advice - on what to do, if it was right not to have replied or called, be the more adult one! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): This guy had really bad form. If you had gone out two months, and even bothered to pick up where you left off around Christmas or whatever, he owed you a face to face talk and a breakup. Doing so by email is cowardly and tells me that you did not mean that much to him, and to say call me some time, what an enormous ASS!
I would NOT send him a card on his birthday, call him, email him or text him. Guys like this infuriate me, you would really build up his huge ego if you did that and he might call you just to prove what a stud he is to himself, but you will get nothing out of it except humiliation and a guy friend who will waste your emotional energy and time.
He doesn't deserve any of it. To me what he did was nail the coffin closed, I would never contact such a man again....and I pray neither will you.
Concentrate on you having a great Easter with your friends and family and hope he gets rabies from the Easter bunny for his birthday.
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reader, ladyinlondon +, writes (15 March 2009):
well the fact you remember its his birthday, is probably a sign you should wish him well. There is no harm, although i totally disagree with what he did and so if he trys to contact you after your birthday wish to him i wouldnt be too pally with him. You'll make the right descion as there isn't a wrong one :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Send him a card? What for? He dumped you by email, most inconsiderate and cowardly.
You don't need to demonstrate that you're "more adult" than he is! After all, you only dated for a couple months, you owe him nothing.
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reader, kaylagal  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 You should have replied and wished him well. If his birthday is coming up soon, there is nothing wrong with a birthday text, email or even a call.
Good luck.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (15 March 2009):
 What a coward...I woulnd't bother. You deserve better than someone who dumps you by email. Send him a card, keep it short and simple, to show you don't hold any grudges, but just keep in mind you're worth so much more x
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