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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My ex finished with me a while ago and something keeps playing on my mind. When he got together with me, he said he would never cheat on me because he knew how bad he had been feeling when he discovered his ex, who he was engaged to be married to, was sleeping with another man (who then became her new partner) while they were together. I think now that I was a rebound relationship for my ex. Anyway, the last time we went out together went badly and I heard nothing from him for a week and a half then he came over to dump me!!! He told me that during this 1 and a half weeks he had arranged to meet his ex-fiancee to get some closure on their relationship (yet told me his mobile didn't work to contact me: totally crap excuse), but that she didn't turn up and she then claimed that she forgot. I know that before my ex and I got together he told me that she would turn up on at his house after they had broken up and always end up having sex, and he would think they were back together but she would say they weren't, make her excuses and leave; all this while she was with her new partner. While we were together, he showed me a chocolate flavoured condom and he told me he was saving it and I said 'what for? and he said 'it's a secret'. That could have been him teasing/being playful and I know he had a fantasy involving oral sex. When he dumped me he said 'I never cheat on people' and I immediately wondered why he was telling me this when he was dumping me. It immediately made me think he had! I even wonder if he dumped me because he had slept with his ex. Well, after my ex and I split up our mothers were chatting on the phone and said that SHE had been pestering HIM, a completely different version of events to that which he had given me. Now I don't know who to believe! I am not very trusting of men at all, and wonder if I am just looking for excuses to prove he has cheated or whether it does sound like he has. Does it sound like he cheated on me? Would particularly like opinions from men, but would appreciate girls opinions too! I'm not sure why I need to know really, but it just keeps playing on my mind. I have severed all contact with him so can't get closure with this from him and I think even if he said no he hadn't cheated I wouldn't believe him.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 He did dump you as a matter of fact.Why are you thinking about him now?I do not think that it's important whether he cheated on you.More reasonable for you now is to move on with your own life.Past is history; there is nothing about future in this story.
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