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writes: i'm 24 and was dumped by my partner of 6 1/2years, 7 weeks ago, who said it was coz he was depressed at the time, he also said that he doesn't want a g/f or to go straight into another relationship. he didn't even want to try and work through any problems or try to sort our relationship out.However i have now found out that he has a new g/f and has been with her a week after we split. i'm so angry and confused coz i feel that he lied to me when we broke up, also i still love this guy and am finding really hard to deal with the fact he has a new g/f already!! more to the point a g/f a week after coming out of a 6 1/2 year relationship.numerous people have also told me that he hadnt been cheating on me with this girl and he even said he hadnt. im moving on from the relationship and have been out and doing things which is helping, but at the moment i feel so angry and keep thinking will it last between my ex and his new g/f. i dont know how to get these thoughts out of my head and its driving me mad.
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reader, shandy +, writes (4 September 2006):
It is difficult to say if he has been cheating on you without any evidence. After 6 years I would think that he would still have feelings for you which he has taken into his new relationship. Try not to think about whether his new relationship is going to work that's not your problem. You need to concentrate on yourself and try to move on. The hurt and pain you are going through is not going to be easy but its going to take time to heal. Try not to jump into another relationship right now take some time out. Spoil yourself. I have been through something very similar to yourself but tis was after 17years being together and she found someone within three weeks of rejecting my marriage proposal.
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reader, Turgo +, writes (4 September 2006):
I've heard this senario before... I would say most likley he was cheating on you. And im a suming you where sexualy actice? I would go get tested to be sure you clean. If you up to it try to find out if he really was cheating. I think you better off with out him. but about your feelings... what I do... i find a nice quiet place and screem my head off! Belive it or not its health for you, as long as your not screeming at someone. Also grag anyfriends you may have, and familys good too. Just ger people around you that care and love you. Things will get better with time. Good Luck.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Its impossible to tell if things will last with this new partner but since it looks like the relationship wasn't establisehd before you split its possible that it's a rebound in which case the odds are it won't. I suspect the unspoken feeling here is that you feel he dumped you to be with her thus you feel he lied about the reasons.
Again its something that it's impossible to tell. I think you are very much on the right track to getting these thoughts out of your head - you are doing things and getting on with life which is a good start. However, while the emotions are raw its only natural you are going to feel this way - give yourself space to be human. Maybe if you wrote down how you were feeling and what you want to say to him - all of it - maybe write it as a letter to him that you never send it will help you get your feelings out of your head a little. Hope that helps. Take care.
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