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writes:My dear friend has endured a terrible break up. After 6 years of friendship which blossomed into love, he suddenly told her he can't love her the way he used to, and that he didn't want to talk to her about it. She begged him not to break up with her, but he insisted, and told her she was a really good person, but that he no longer loved her. That was 2 weeks ago. Since then, she called him twice and he didn't answer nor respond to her call. She ran into him, and ducked him. He called a day later to apologize for how he treated her. She was surprised, but now she longs to call him and is cruising web sites for how to get him back...advice, please...how can she get him back, and, does that ever really work? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): He's said he wants to finish it so there is no point in her continuing in this way. You could support her though, be a shoulder to cry on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): you want him back means,you said you have been friends for 6 years.stop chasing him.go in his way and get him,like dont speak more on the thing happened for the break of you both friendship.Create a feel about that your love on him is innocence.
before doing this make sure that he is good friend until your friendship broken.
even then he is not accepting then make him atleast feel "i miss her".
dont chase start loving more.in your love dont bring posessiveness,jealous,adamant.give your love to him dont expect from him.it will work good i believe!
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reader, Alwaysunsure189 +, writes (7 October 2010):
Its been my experience that when someone chases someone and tries too hard to push their love on them it usually drives the other person away.
Notice how he ignored her when she tried to contact him. But when she purposely avoided him he probably felt rejected even though he was the one that left.
I would suggest she continue to avoid him for a while so he has time to remember all the great things that are missing from his life now. A couple things may happen...
It will give her time and space to see what she wants in life instead of blindly chasing him because she is hurting over the break up. If he continues to try to contact her then she has the option of possibly reconciling.
Or possibly she'll decide that she doesn't really want him afterall once she has had some space. He may continue to call her, but then she can tell him that she has chosen to move on. Win win for her. Stinks for him but hey it was his idea afterall.
Or...he stops chasing her. Maybe she'll still want him back, I don't know. By at least she will have gotten out of the cycle of making herself crazy over it and already begun the process of moving on.
Or maybe they both won't care anymore!
Either way I think this option, hard as it may be, gives your friend a bit of an upper hand and will enable her to make the best decision for her life :)
Best of luck to her!! 3
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Nothing is impossible and some people do go through things like this, eventually reconnecting and getting re-involved with someone they used to date. The best she can do is try to rekindle the old friendship they once had and then go from there. Take it slowly so they can both see their path clearly.
I hope that helps.
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