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writes:*Note: Names are false!*Well i think everything started since i broke up with my 2 year relationship boyfriend so I'll start from there. I was going out with a guy called Chris i think i was really in love with him. We used to be the perfect couple. He is the type of guy who would do everything to help and save me. He always respected me as in he never even asked me for sex. He even made it serios and talked to my mom so we could be official. He was amazing,but slightly after we made it thru our first year he cheated on me. I forgave him and gave him a second chance, but everything changed. I didn't trust him and slowly everything began to die. I am not sure, but it did. However when we broke up I still cried. It all hurt. He cried and begged me to try,but something wouldn't let me. I was really hurt and I decided it was just best to stay away. After we broke up I promised myself that I would not fall for any guy. I would only have time for my family and friends. NO GUYS!! but that didn't last. We started school again(August) and i began to meet new people. I met John. John stuck out between all my friends. He makes me laugh and smile and forget my problems. We started talking and almost instantly became very close. We started talking on the phone every night, facebook, myspace, everything! He comes to my school everyday just to have lunch with me. I developed a crush on him. Then i began to notice it around the last 2 weeks of October. (I noticed it b/c one day Chris called me and told me that i had completely ignored him all thru August and now October. I noticed that i was always happy and that I didn't think of Chris and that i was compltely over him. I felt guilty for forgetting him that quickly, but really didn't care.) (October 31)Then one day i went to John's house with my cousin Jenni. It was Sunday and we had just left church. Jeni lives near John so i hit him up and told him i was near and he told me to go to his house. We went to his house and started the usual flirting and laughing. W/o noticing we were holding hands and Jenni was like "ooh yall obiosly want some privecy. I'll leave you two alone so yall can kiss." I told her we were only friends, but she left anyways. I was sittinb beside him on his bed. We were watching tv but then i layed down. We were laughing and flirting when he suddenly got close too me(very close). His face was inches from mines. and i tld him your too close. and he asked "am i too close now?" he was coming closer and closer. His lips were on mine and he kept asking. Eventually i gave in and kissed him. Then everything started goin fast. He was on top of me and it was hot. He took his shirt off and was beginning to take mines off. Then Jenni walked in she saw us and was like "Sara we need to go! My dad is calling and asking were we are." I told her i would be out in a few minuetes. When shhe left John kept goin. His dad was in the living room and was calling him. I took his phone and ignored the call and when i saw the screen it said "Abby(:" i asked him who she was and he like just a friend. I was mad and wanted to leave but forgot when he started kissing me again. He took my shirt off and started kissing me everywhere. Then I stopped him. Jenni kept texting me and I knew we really had to leave. We were in there for like 20 min and had left like 2 hrs ago. When we stopped we dressed and walked out. We were holding hands all the way i the corner where he could not go bye anymore. That happened on a Sunday and i didn't get a chance to see him till Thursday due to the school scheduale. I wasn't going to see him on Friday and I was really sad. He was acting a little sad. When it was time to leave i hugged him and didn't want to let go but the bell has already rung. He kissed me and i saw him wince. I asked what was wrong and he didn't answer. He told me to go to class and kissed me again. I didn't see him then till Monday. He had asked me out on Friday and Saturday but I said I would answer him on Monday when i could see him. (November 8)When I saw him on Monday he was really down. He was nervous and wouldn't look at me. I could tell something was really bothering him. I asked him and he said "you want to know what happened? the truth happened" as it came out he told me he loved me. but only as a Bestfriend. He also told me Abby was his gf at the time,buthe broke up with her b/c he thaught she deserved better than him and b/c he cheated on her. It hurt,but I didn't cry in front of him. I just said it was okay. He knew I wasn't and was even more sad. The rest of the week I told him to go we saw eachother every day and he tried to make me smile. He always did, but it still hurt. I would smile onfront of him during those 30 mins. of lunch but cried everytime i could. I was going thru it really rough. We made it through the whole week acting normal in front of him. Then on Monday we started messing around and went a place where nobody would bother us. We ended up kissing and getting carried away, but the bell rang and he had to go. The next day the same happened except we didn't get carried away just kissed. On Wednesday we had a wierd scheduale and everybody was out during the break. I didn't like it when we were around my best friend Mary. He would kind of ignore me and talk to her more than me. So I totally ignored him that day because he was making everything awckward. Mary told me he felt bad b/c i was ignoring him. but when i tried to talk ti him it was very awckward so i left. When I came back they left alone and he turned to look at me before they left. I was furious at both of them, but didn't say anything. The next day he acted wierd and told me that we could not be messing around anymore b/c he had made a promise to somebody. He never brakes his promises so I let it go, but it hurt. Then this week we were acting normal or at least trying. We saw eachother thru video cam and were watching eachother and he was going naked. Then today we were just being perverted towards eachother. I was busy thru the evening and didn't text him till very late. He was acting wierd and i asked what was wrong and he told me he liked Mary. I felt horrible. After everything we've gone thru I feel bad. I am not sad b/c of Mary b/c she is a true friend and never go out with him. She already talked to him (after i told her not to) and told him no. I really like him but know that he never will. I don't know what to do. I feel so angry at myself for liking him, for wanting to be with him. For having that wierd physical want with him I never have had with nobody. Not even Chris. I don't love him. I know that, but nothing else. What should I do? For some wierd reasons this hurts more than anything. I feel so confused. Please someone give me an answer and try to help me b/c this is too much pain I think I can't handle it!
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reader, m.  +, writes (9 December 2010):
I can understand you, boys can do this, unfortunately. I was another girl before I met my ex, and because of him I've even quarrelled with my best friends too, so just try to' imagine how much he changed me. These days I've tought a lot about him, and I have just decided that I don't wanna see him anymore. I just don't talk to him, I keep on my way when I see him and I barely greet him. I'm tired of being sad, aren't you? And for what? For a guy! A friend of mine told me that there are many fishes in the sea. Sincerely, I don't want another fish, but I don't wanna feel so bad for that stupid guy anymore. I don't deserve it. You don't deserve it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you soo much, but I have been trying so hard. It's very hard for me. This makes me more angry at myself because I have never been so week. I feel so week. Like I am so sad and crying all the time. This is not who I am. But thank you so much!
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reader, m. +, writes (26 November 2010):
Well, wow. Your story is almost the same as mine, I'm surprised. So, I can just tell you what happened to me. Above all, I have to tell you that you're very lucky that "Mary" has told John no. My bestfriend hasn't done it, so be sure that Mary is a true friend. Actually I don't know what to tell you about John. I still love my ex, and 2 years have passed, so I can only give you an advice: go away from him. I'm serious. Stop talking to him, stop writing to him on facebook, stop seeing him at the video cam, just stop. Erase his telephone number from your phone, hang out with new people. I'm not saying you should date with other guys, but maybe you should have new friends. Oh, keep yourself busy, don't let his memory coming back. One day you will discover you have forgotten him. I know that you might think that you can't do it, but the best thing you can do is moving from him. Maybe one day you and John will be friends again, but not now. Now you have to think about your priorities, about yourself. Let him go.
Good Luck!!! :)
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