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writes:Aunts i need your help! So there's a guy that i have a class with ( college ) we recently started to get to know each other. So I haven't been with a guy in over a year so im not rushing to be in a relationship. I was talking to alot of guys but there was no sex involved. But i had sex with my classmate ( were done with classes now ) so it was going nicely. But i did start to like him a little. So we both told.eachother how we felt. He said he likes me alot but he doesn't want a relationship. Now i dont know what i want because i still miss and love the last guy i was with sometimes. But since the new guy told me he doesn't want a relationship I want to back away completely. He said he doesn't want me too, and he didn't want to lie to me. And hes starting to get jealous about other guys that talk to me but why should i stick around and start liking him more and he doesn't want a relationship? Im fine that he told me the truth but my feelings are hurt a little. But my question is would I be childish or what if I just told him to delete my number? I dont mind being his friend but i dont wanna talk to him everyday. But i really do care :-\ but I can walk away easily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): Then walk away completely, you're friends now OP, you're friends with benefits, if you think he's not going to keep trying to get benefits then you're wrong.
Just get rid of him completely. You want a relationship, he doesn't. He wants a friendship, you don't you like him too much.
OP if a guy can't give you what you want cut him off. Do you really want to be friends with a guy who is jealous of the guys you date? How can someone like that be a good friend to you?
No it wouldn't be childish to tell him to delete your number, it would be the mature adult thing to do.
He hasn't got anything to offer you that you want, so why keep him hanging around?
OP any guy who says he doesn't want a relationship, just wants sex. Don't stick around, it's just a waste of time.
Don't become one of these women who thinks they can convince the guy to change his mind if you hope hard enough. Life doesn't work like that.
Who cares if he said he doesn't want you to? He's entitled to want what he wants but he has nothing you want, and you're the only person that matters here OP.
Time to stop wasting your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): Yes I think it would be childish to tell him to delete your number. If that's how you feel there are other more diplomatic ways of expressing that without saying it. I don't think you are wrong however, to feel dogged by him. I mean he did sleep with you and then told you he didn't want anything serious. I'd be mad too, especially if I really liked him and felt like he led me on. If you feel this way then you don't have to be his friend. Just let it go, be short with him, stop taking his calls and move on.
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