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writes:I need some advice. Ive been dating a guy for about a year and a half and he never wants to have sex...I'm not trying to be cocky but I am a pretty girl and im in good shape...he's starting to make me feel terrible about myself. If I want to have sex chances are he doesn't and won't have sex with me, but if he wants to have sex and I don't want to he gets really mad and can be hateful about it. He only wants to have sex when he is drunk and only like once or twice a month. I get hit on a lot at the bar and he gets soooo incredibly jelous! Thats the only time it seems like he is interested in me sadly. I keep wondering if he is gay. I have had 2 other (actually)serious relationships and have always been very pleased with my sex life. I love him, but I can't do this anymore. Can someone help me understand what I did wrong and maybe give me some advice on ending this relationship? PLEASE
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): You are way too young to have to deal wit this nonsense. Find someone who is exciting and wants to enjoy you. This is not going to get any beter. Jealousy is just a form of not trusting you. Move on. I am married 16 years and have sex issues and it is very difficult to deal with. Find someone on your same wavelength. Find your soul mate. I wish we all could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): I think you're taking this all wrong, I think you have to ask why he doesn't want to have sex. It probably isn't about you at all, maybe he is down on himself or he is depressed. Talk to him. Communication is the key in all relationships
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hey sweetie, I know what you mean. I think it is a little bit of a wild assumption that he may have been abused, I think after being with you for a while he would have trusted you with that kind of heart ache.
As for being gay, you can but ask. When I was going through a similar situation, I found that when we werent together he was viewing porn and pleasuring himself and wasnt interested by the time I got there. Perhaps this is something you could talk about, I can assure you there is nothing wrong with you, as there wasnt with me. I also used to get alot of attention - which he didnt like so you need to tell him to step up to the mark or get lost. Sorry.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (23 April 2008):
it sounds like you boyfriend had a bad experience in the past. Maybe he was sexually abused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): i think you are not pleasing him in bed, find out what he likes and do it. if not he will go to someone elese
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