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writes:I have been dating a guy for a few months now. Things seem to be pretty great between the two of us. We get a long and a have a lot of the same interest and goals. I enjoy being with him more than I have anyone else I have dated. But, for him it is bad timing since he came out of a relationship that really hurt him. It was 6 months ago, but he still thinks about her everyday. I think it is hard, because I fell like he is probably looking to see what she is doing and knows what she is doing, so in my mind he is almost driving himself crazy. I constantly feel confused like he likes me and we really have a chance for a great relationship, and then there is a side of that says I am just there to kill time and I am a just a sweet person (which is what people around me say). When I finally got the courage to ask, because I listen to too much of what other people were saying to me, he got upset. I felt really bad, but worse and more confused when he said that he does like me, but can't get her out of his head. He also said he doesn't want me to give up on him yet, but then also said if she wanted him back he consider it. Which was hard for me to understand and take because I have never dated a person more than once, and I just don’t see the point, since it never seems to work the second time, and that is the main reason why I have held on this long is if I walk away, I won’t turn back. So, do I wait or do I go?????
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reader, Miss Del La Rosa  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 I know this is going to sound harsh as its clear you like this guy however he is way to hung up on his ex.
He needs to get over her and to do that he cant be in a relationship.
You also need to come first and that isnt going to happen here.
You deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): You are not going to like this, but I have to be honest with you;
STOP being nice to him; start being kind to yourself;
MOVE ON; you are wasting your time, you are going to get more hurt; the longer you delay this, the more difficult it will be; because your emotions and feelings for this guy will get stronger;
You don't want to be 2nd best do you?
Get out there find somebody to whom you will be NUMBER ONE;
somebody who will love you and cherish you; not just USE you;
Be strong and do what is best for YOU;
Best wishes
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