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female
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41-50,
*umble
writes:Hi. I dont know what to do with my relationship. I've been living with my partner for 7 months now and he wont involve me in his personal live. He says its because he has always been private but I want our relationship to be more open. He doesnt involve me socially either and never has his friends in the house. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, tumble +, writes (6 July 2008):
tumble is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks scrazy. Im going to tell him that Im not putting up with it anymore. I dont want to always have this problem.One of his friends took a dislike to me at the start out of jealousy cos she liked him. Thats not my problem anymore. I shouldnt have to be hidden away.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 I still say Dump Him.
What's there to be so defensive about? Does he not HAVE any friends? Are they drug dealers? All female strippers?
Excuses, excuses... He can only be defensive for so long before you start thinking "Why am I putting up with this again?".
He needs to give a you a REAL reason why he won't let you be part of his social life; being very 'private' is not an excuse.
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reader, tumble +, writes (5 July 2008):
tumble is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice . I dont want to leave him because Ive never loved someone so much. But I also dont want to be made a fool of. I've brought these issues up a lot before and he has been defensive. I just dont know what to do.
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female
reader, scrazy +, writes (5 July 2008):
I agree with Emilyanswers; he either wants a personal maid...or a little piece on the side.
If he wants to keep you separate from every other aspect of his life, then tell him to forget about it - No one is that private without reason. Dump him. He can be as separate as he wants to be without you.
It sounds to me like this boy is playing you for a fool. Don't let him get away with this stupidity; find someone else who WANTS you to be in every part of his life.
xo
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 July 2008):
Well it sounds like he either wants a housewife, or a dirty little secret for a girlfriend.
If he wants to lead a separate life from you then tell him he can be separate completely. Kick him out.
Normal couples share things and share friends. He either has a serious problem or he's playing you for a fool.
Good Luck!! xx
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