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writes:hey im 15 years old and i have a big problem. I had a boyfriend for just over a month but we broke up recently because of his mate saying all this stuff and we just kept argueing all the time. There is something he doesnt no aswell. :( im not proud of this but when i was going out with him i kissed another guy. i didnt mean to it just sort of happened. I have met up with the other guy since and he seems to really care but he is only 14 and i think its a bit weird and he isnt a virgin where as i am and i just think he moves too fast for me but i do like him. I have been talking to my ex and he came round last nyt and you no the drill.. kissing, talking, cuddling and what not. He wants to get back to together but i dont no who to choose cos they both seem to care for me the same and i just dont no who i wana be with :( please help im so stuck as to what to do.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Look deep inside yourself for the answer.
Imagine yourself first with one, and then with the other. Imagine yourself in a social situation ... a party or something. Imagine meeting up with your friends when the two of you are together. How do you feel if you're with your ex? With the younger guy? Is there a difference in the level of comfort?
The red flag is up about the younger guy already, though. You met him and "just sort of happened" to kiss him. I think if you do choose him you had better expect that he's going to make it his business to see that a lot of other things "just sort of happen" between the two of you. I'm not saying he doesn't care for you, or that you can't make a good couple, just that you're likely to be subjected to a lot more temptation with him than with the other guy. Are you ready for that?
These are things to ponder.
But in the end, it all comes down to, which one do you really want. And only you can decide that.
P.S. Be glad you've got this decision. Read the letters here from so many girls your age who can't get any guys at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): If you can't choose then you should stay single for now. It is better to be single than flip-flopping between two different people, or choosing one and always thinking "what if....?" about the other. It saves all three of you from getting caught up in a painful and messy situation.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 You need to weigh your options here.
Think of the pro's and con's of being with both boys. You didn't give too much detail about either of them, except for the fact that the new guy is younger then you, is not a virgin and you find that he moves too fast for you.
Do you think if you asked him to, he would slow down?
Really take into consideration which guy you want to be with, because the only person who can make this decision is you.
xo
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