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writes: Hello... Ive fallen for a guy that i really want. He's just recently become single and is a couple of years younger than me (20). We got together recently and we've txt since, but im not sure where to go from here. He doesnt want anything serious but fun, i like him and dont wanna give up on him. What can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): i am in the same boat he asts lik he likes me then the next day its like he is scared to death of having feelings hetold me one time he is haveing feelings for me now hw is saying he doesnt want to get seriuos but what men doesnt understand is women usually puts there heart out ther and scared of commitment women want love family kids and someone there when they need them i have been a sigle mom for a while now and i am also scared of getting myheart broke
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 i agree hestold you he just wants fun i think wat u need to do is really think aout this as you said you like him so can u cope wth the just fun or will ure feelings grow stronger for him hopeing he will want a serios realtionship wth u good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): If he's told you, that he doesn't want anything serious and he's looking for fun--then he's been straight up and you know where you stand. He obviously is not at the same place as you are, in this situation so you need to make a choice. You can pine away, dwell on this and let it drive you batty or you can be strong, do the time, get over him get on with living your life. Not great choices but you can't make a guy feel the same as you do for him. If I were you, I'd wonder why you want to desperately attach to some guy you hooked up with...just one time. And what does his actions and words ("he doesnt want anything serious but fun") really, really tell you? What you do is still be his friend but don't put all your eggs in one basket. If you slept with him, don't do that anymore or that will drag you down into despair even more and will not make him like you nor respect you. Hold out for a committment. In the meantime, get out there and have fun with other people and don't put any validation and significance of who you truely are, on whether you date him or not.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Don't get your heart set on this guy, he's young and clearly wants to weigh out options. Remember to have fun, the best way to lure him in is woith out trying too hard, and just being yourself. Men are attracted to fun-loving, out-going, independent women... prove you are one, and he may stick around.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 All good things come from a fun time getting to know each other, there is no harm in looking at what it is now and enjoying that for all you know in a couple of months you might realise you don't want anything serious from him or he could want something serious so all this worrying could be for nothing.
Just take everyday as it comes and let him have the time to get over his recent relationship before you expect too much from him.
Good luck :o)
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