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*Sxtra
writes:Try to make this short for you.I am a chathost on an internet service, my boyfriend of almost 6 yrs knows what I do and the reason being the money I make? He recently intercepted an email from a friend that implied that I was emailing/texting/talking on the phone to another man that I recently met while away. we recently broke up because of this, he knows that I am a flirty woman, it is my nature to be like that. He thinks that me doing the chathost thing is a big problem mentally I have, that I like that men watch me and talk to me naughty. I have told him many times if he commited to me more I would stop this, he says that this is an addiction, I do not think that, I do this to make money, its pretty good. I want him back in my life I love him so much but he thinks he can not trust me, I have cheated on him he thinks.Please give me your advice on this.MSxtra
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 Have you been doing this chat host thing (which I'll admit I'm not completely sure what you're talking about) for the same 6 years you were dating this guy? If so, then this is nothing new to him and should know (by now) that this is simply a job. Also, even if he has not been around over that time, it does imply that he's been around long enough to recognize this as your source of income (or at least a supplement to it).
The trust (or rather, his thinking that it's a trust issue) is in his lap. I would turn this around and ask what would he do/give/something to regain/reinforce his trust? And in my opinion, it shouldn't be a one-sided deal here. If he's willing to meet in the middle someplace, you could make some concessions as well... maybe less hours and a more traditional job? ...but that's for you to decide.
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