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writes:Hi all, I have a problem some people may find strange, my boyfriend said he thinks about me when he masturbates but only sometimes, he then went onto say he thinks about me when sitting at his desk or playing a quiz and to him that's more important but to me it's more important he thinks of me when he masturbates. Does anyone else have this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 June 2012):
 I have never asked my hubby what he thinks of when he masturbate. That is between him and his right hand.
I can tell you this, I certainly don't always think of my hubby either. It's called having a fantasy and using one's imagination.
I wouldn't take it personal. He could have LIED and said he only thought of you. And then what? You'd be with a liar.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Sometimes I think of my man sometimes not… I don’t think it so strange to think of other things when masturbating…
I would much rather be on his mind all day about mundane things in life than only during his masturbatory fantasies.
He doesn't eat the same food every day why should he limit his imagination any more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): Newsflash to the OP. MOST guys don't think about their partner/girlfriend when they masturbate. If they are having a sexual relationship with you, then they get their rocks off with you when they are with you. If they happen to be horny when you're not around, they will think about whatever. Maybe Megan Fox. Maybe you sometimes. Maybe Kelly Brook. Whoever. That's just the way it is.
It's no different to a lot of women who fantasise about other guys WHILE they have sex with their boyfriend/partner.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 June 2012):
 It's not strange at all. It's normal. It is actually quite seldom that I hear about anyone who only thinks of their partner when they masturbate. I seldom hear about someone who thinks about their partner AT ALL when they masturbate, it's typical that you think about some erotic fantasy of yours instead.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (15 June 2012):
What’s the problem here? It’s not even the case that he doesn’t think about you whilst masturbating, he sometimes does. Maybe the rest of the time he doesn’t need to think of anything at all to get turned on. So why is that more important than the fact that, when he’s doing something he enjoys (quizzes), he thinks of you. And when he’s at a desk (presumably working), the thought that he has to cheer himself up is a thought of you? So why would that be less important to you? Isn’t a relationship more than sex, and who thinks about what? Isn’t it the more boring stuff, like thinking of you when at his desk, the important stuff that shows you that he’s happy with you?
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Sweetie, let me tell u this. ALL guys fantasize about other women whsn maturbating. He already has u, y fntasize about u. My best male friendntold me that all guys fantasize about each women they meet. Yes they when masturbating think of ur sister or mum or that lady on the bus or the dod walker their colleges. It might onky be a secondbbut they still fantasize about them. its normal. im sure thatcu occasionally during sex fantasize about someone else. its the normal thing to do. Xx
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