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writes: I have been with my boyfriend 2 months. We said I love you last weekend. We live 3 hours apart, and see each other about every other weekend. I went out with friends last night, so said i would call him today. He got mad and said he was hurt i didn't take 15 minutes of my night with my friends to call him. It's not like he calls me that often anyways (like maybe three times a week). I thought I should have alone time with my friends, but he said today that he loves me, but isn't sure that I love him. He wants me to tell him how I feel about him. I've told him things like how he believes in me and is intellectual and deep and that i miss him, but i guess that is not enough. I asked him why he loves me (he said it first) and he said it's so deep and long, and he would tell me when we had more time (we both had to get off the phone). I have been trying to think why i love him, and it's because he is so in love with life, and doesn't force his feelings on me, and loves me for me, thinks i'm perfect the way i am. He really listens to me unlike my exes, and i've just been wrecking my brain trying to tell him about what i feel, not only who he is. Am i just not understanding the question? why is this so hard for me? i don't want him to think i don't think about him or care about him, because i do. i'm supossed to call him back tonight and answer the question-he wanted me to think about it. but i keep putting it off because i feel like i won't say enough or what he wants to hear, and actually, i don't know what to say. How i feel is such a broad question. if he likes me just as i am, why does it feel like i can't make him happy? he said he hasn't felt good all week cuz i didn't get his 2 emails and he called me on two nights i was out with my friends. i think he thinks i just don't care, but i do! he said it's great when we're together and he feels like i care about him at those times, but when we're apart he doesn't feel like he's apart of my life. Granted, he chose to move to the mountains just recently, and i want to become an actress, and have been pursuing that along with work and hanging out with friends. I'm busy, but that doesn't mean i don't think about him when i'm gone. What should i do?
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reader, redsox07  +, writes (19 May 2008):
maybe you don't love him. You have only been together for 2 months and its been long distance. Maybe what youre feeling is the POTENTIAL for love. Maybe it just hasnt developed yet. You may need to spend more real time together, seeing eachother every other weekend isn't enough time to actually get to know someone on all levels, I say this because you see eachother so little you are probably very excited and its a very quick happy time. You need to be together through the everyday things, the ups and downs. I think you should tell himexactly what you told us, I think it will be enough
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