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writes: My b/f and I have been together for several months now and although things are going very well, I have noticed a change. During the first couple of months of our relationship he was constantly telling me how much he loved me and could see himself spending the rest of his life with me, etc... At the time, this freaked me out but as time passed, I slowly got used to the idea and started to feel the same way. Now I find that it is me making these types of comments whilst he isn't vocal at all anymore. I honestly can't remember the last time he said anything of this type to me. I am not sure if this is just due to a comfort factor in our relationship or if he is perhaps getting "over it" so to speak. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, tux  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 I dont think it's over or heading that way.. as time goes by you'd realize a lot of things used to be spoken become less verbal. you may even get to the point where the both of you just look at each other and know exactly what they are saying even without a single word spoken. but don't fret it too much.. unless you truly have a deep feeling it's going that way. you may just need to have a talk and see where things are going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2006): I would try not to worry too much. Relationships do go through changing balances. In the beginning you were a bit freaked out, now maybe he is because of the things he has said. It may only be a passing thing. In the beginning is the infatuation, which is based a lot on appearances and immediate reactions - the Romeo and Juliette butterfly stage. Then as you get to know each other the friendship and common ground emerges, which is maybe where you are at now. Hopefully you can dip back into romance at regaular intervals. Why not make some kind of plan which involves something you would both like to do. Work on that together, whether it be a holiday or something else exciting. You would see how he reacts to the idea of working on a joint project with you, how he involves himself, and make some judgements from that. Perhaps wait until he next says something nice before you say any more.
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