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writes: me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 7months. we are normally close and get on well. he has a bit of a temper and can sometimes get abry easily. for the last two weeks he has been distant and its always me going to him but its him that stresses. he is havin family problems currently but is shuting me out and im worried. he get angry n ignores me i say sorry first but then he is always like no its ok it my fault not you but me. i dont understand why he keeps pushing me away he doent talk to me about how he feeling anymore. what can i do Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Difficult one this, on the one hand I would say you need to continue being patient and supportive as it is obviouse his family issues are causing him stess and just maybe he feels he wants to deal with them on his own. He says sorry and admits he has the problem and by saying sorry he is trying to mend any hurt he has done.
But the other hand say`s no you do not have to put up with this, you have offered support and he has turned it down, you have tried to be there for him but he has just got angry with you, you can only be shut out for so long before resentment sets in, and resentment is like rot, it spreads and spreads.
Sit him down when he is not stressed, make a meal and tell him you are worried about him, you understand he wants to deal with the family problems himself and that is fine you will be there for him , but you are having to deal with the backlash and that is hurting you and so you want him to be considerate of your feelings, remind him you will help and support him but not be his whipping boy.
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