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writes: Hello there,I have been seeing a guy about a month and we recently starting sleeping together. We are both in our late 20's.The first time we had a bit to drink, (well quite a lot actually),he was not able to get a hard on more like a half hard on. In the morning we woke up and it was a lot better. The sex itself was very good.On our second time he seemed to get a hard on but then it goes down again until I start using my hand. It never seems to get really hard. Do you think he has a problem? I don't want to say anything as it's early on the relationship. The sex is really good between us but I just haven't come across this before! Thanks for your help. x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): As many medical resons as there could be, it could also be simply because of new-sexual-relationship jitters. If you've only had sex a couple of times, it could be because he's a little nervous, or too focused on making it good for YOU... I'd say just work on getting to know eachothers bodies, tun ons... turn offs...After some time, and after you reach a good level of comfort (give it another month?), if the problem persists week some medical advice. For now, since your body is working just fine (the sex is good for you), pay some extra attention to him the next few times. Even if it doesn't work the first couple times, be patient and take it slow.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): well it does sound like he may have a problem, not a big problem though. erectile dysfunction can happen to anyone. at the moment he can maintain a semi-hard on and the sex is still good so dont get so worried or so concerned. he may need more stimulation, try posistions that open you up more for penetration. try fore play and see if he can maintain a full erection for a few minutes before having sex. and always remember that drugs, alcohol,cigarette smoking, stress, and conditions such as high blood pressure, poor diet, and diabetes can effect full erection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): Hi there
Does this fellow of yours smoke? If he does then you need to explain that smoking can play a big factor in getting his soldier up. Try not to belittle him as he might get a complex about it.
Good luck
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 It sounds like he might have erectile disfunction. . . you've probably seen the TV commercials.
I've never had that problem, but I think Alcohol can contribute. If he's not drinking and he still can't "get it up", he might want to look into getting some Viagra or one of the other "hard on" drugs.
Good luck.
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