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*all3rbby
writes:So I've been talking to this boy on and off for three years now. I like him now more than I have before, but I feel like the roles have changed. Before, he did anything he could to try and be with me. I sort of pushed it off, and now, he's doing the same. I'm not desperate to be with him, though, and I don't act like I am. Last night I went to his football game, they lost, and everyone on the team was mad. I went to the bottom of the field to wait for him, where girlfriends and family of players talk to them before they go change. He walked right past me. He's never really acted like we were talking, but he's told many people that we were 'talking,' and he sends me texts calling me baby and stuff. I waited until he came back out, but he walked past me again. My friend ran after him telling him to come talk to me, but he said 'No I'm pissed.' I walked to my car with two of my friends and he was stopped at a stop sign, talking to someone. I tried to ignore it because I didn't want him to think I was following him, but my friend stopped to talk to their other friend. The boy I'm talking to said hi, and he kept asking me what was wrong. I said nothing, and then he said he had to go. He hugged me and then walked to his car. Then I walked under some light with my two friends and I was extremely upset that he didn't want to talk to me, when we finally could see each other. I felt like I was wasting my time. When I see him, it's for 30 seconds at the end of the day, and he doesn't text me all day, if he does at all. So I'm stuck here feeling empty and confused.. he also texted me asking why I was upset, and that I didn't understand how it feels to lose. I play sports too! So I do understand what it's like to lose. Why doesn't HE understand? When we first started talking, he told me he's not very good with relationships, like knowing what to say. Am I wasting my time? Or should I wait it out? Does he think he can treat me this way because he feels he is in control of us talking now? Thank you for your time.
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reader, ball3rbby +, writes (2 September 2011):
ball3rbby is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Bjacobs.. thanks so much! I think that you are completely right. And I'm the same way with sports so I understand. Thank you again!
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reader, BJacobs +, writes (29 August 2011):
 From the sounds of things i would say that he might have been upset that you never showed alot of interest in him before. During one of the periods where you guys werent talking alot he might have told himself (knowingly or not) to forget about you and that you werent really interested in him. Which could have made him angry with you. Thats just how i see it and how i would probably feel if i was him. Anyways i would just keep trying to txt him and if he doesnt change his attitude then you just forget about him.P.S. About him being angry about the football game, well he could just be super competative and not like loosing because i know i get angry for a while when i lose at something. I dont know if i helped at all but i hope i did somewhatGood luck!
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