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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hii've liked this guy for ages and now i find out he doesnt like me. so basically its rejection and everyone knows i like him and he knows i like himand it just hurtsand i'm scared that these feeling are never going to go away and i'm going to feel like this all the time.cause i cant see ever liking anyone as much cause its perfect. this is like my first proper crush i guess and it hurts like hell.i thought he was flirting with my friend and know he found out and feels gulity. and i dotn want him to feel sorry for me.he looked really upset i think when i thought that so.he says he doesnt want a relationship till college its like ok.help ?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Aww hunny...sending you a big hug. Rejection is really damn painful. I dont think there are too many people in the world who haven't had to suffer this kind of pain, so you are definitely not on your own.
If this boy has said he isnt ready then I guess the best you can do is remain friends with him and maybe he will change his mind at some point. If you cant face seeing him date other people then sometimes it's better to walk away and just get on with your own life.
I know how bad that pain feels, I have felt it myself a couple of times over men I really fell for but who didn't feel the same way. It feels like it completely takes over your mind and it feels like it will never end...but the good news is that it can end and it does...and even better news...you can take action and decide when it ends.
Gather your friends around you. Go out and mix with other people. Cry if you have to but only allow yourself a certain amount of time each day to think about it. Take bubble baths, listen to fun lively music and try to do other things to life your spirits.
They say misery loves company...and if you go around all sad and miserable, then your gonna attract miserable people and that wont help.
Dont pay any attention to what he is doing now and who he is seeing as it will only drive you mad. Look after yourself. It has also been known that if a girl doesnt mope about too long after she is dumped...some guys wanna know why your not breaking your heart over them and sheer curiosity might just pull him back in the loop.
Hold your head up sweetie and be proud. broken hearts do mend
lots of love to you xxx
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