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writes: I love him but does he love me?I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. We have a very loving relationship and both hope to move in together soon. But I often worry if he is just with me because it's easier than being alone. He will spend every hour of every day with me as long as we do what he wants to do. If I ever suggest meeting friends or doing something I would enjoy he always refuses to come with meThis really upsets me as I always have to attend parties, weddings alone, even a trip to the movies or to visit my family. My friends always ask why he is not with me and it's embarrassing that I have to depend on them alot to keep me company. My boyfriend runs his own business and I am very proud of him but his business is always the perfect excuse. I don't want to nag or complain but sometimes I feel like he doesn't really love me because he doesn't make much effort when I need him to.
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reader, pica +, writes (14 July 2006):
Aside from the specifics basically he won't do anything that he doesn't want to, even if it's important to you. Fast forward five years. You're still together but he's still leaving you to your own thing whenever he feels like it. Happy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): Have you told him how you feel? Maybe he doesn't realise he's making you so uncomfortable. Maybe try giving him a taste of what it feels like, next time he wants to do something, tell him you love him but have something more important you want to do. I think you have to really let him know about this. It's not healthy to be in doubt that he loves you, it wont be good for your relationship, especially that you're thinking of moving in together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): does he tell you he loves you? and show it?
i have the same problem as my bf hates groups of girls and spending time with my family makes him nervous, we had a lot of fights about it but now i see that its who he is and some things are easier to accept than try to change.
how important is it to you that he attend events with you?
can you prioritise things so that he'l go to some things with you if you dont pressurise him into attending others??
good luck
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