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writes:heyi just asked this guy "what would you say if i asked you out?" and he said no because it will mess up our friendship , i was like oh ok , but the problem is i have been doing sexual stuff with him , like tossing him off ect, but he will still let me do it , he says he has feelings for me but is it true if he dont want to go out with me ? thanks for reading any thing will help tar Heartboken.x Reply to this Question
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reader, heartbroken . x +, writes (28 February 2009):
heartbroken . x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys , i told him to get lost , now my friends are saying im a lot happyer , Thank you so much , xxxxxx
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reader, lengreen +, writes (11 February 2009):
 i will be very honest with ya, i had a girlfriend like you once, and she was my girlfriend just for sexual favours like what your doing to your socal boyfriend. he is definetly using you, as i was using her. everytime she came round to mine, we would do sexual things, but never once did i introduce her to my friends or did i ever take her out to dinner or anything. i know i was using her, but what i was getting from her was way to good for me to stop seeing her. it ended when i met my now mother of my 2 children. so i had to stop seeing her, as i fell in love with my baby mother. stop it now what you are doing as he is using you. sorry to be so blunt, but i have done it and know exactly how he is loving it.
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reader, Mr hair man  +, writes (10 February 2009):
This guys soumds like bit of a pr*ck if you dont mind me saying!..ur bein used. U really have to tell him to stop with the hole sexual favours coz like the other girl said ur bein a doormat!Ask him out again if u really like him but if he says yes then i would be afraid that he would then just want sex immediatly. But gudluk anyway and i hope u mak the right desicion
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Hi,Take advice from somebody who is going through the exact same thing! right now i feel so incredibly F**king s**t you wouldnt believe. stop dong this before you end up heartbroken like i have! and by the way you are NOT giving women a bad name, men do this and dont get a bad name so why should women be any different just because of what other people say. my opinion is womens feelings are a lot stronger than a mans which is why very few women can just have casual sex with a guy and it not mean anything. please dont carry on having sex with this guy i wouldnt want anybody to feel like i do right now. i wish i would have stopped this a long time ago and i didnt; look where it got me. very rarely does this work out, somebody always wants more than the other.i know this is not what u wanted to hear because iv heard it myself but at the end of the day it is good advice and i only wish i had listened to it.hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): What are you thinking doing sexual favors for this guy? What are you a working girl, prostitute? I think not, you
are a young girl who desperately needs some self respect..
This guy is not even your friend. He does not even want to date you let alone be your boyfriend.
I bet he talks negatively about you to his friends and has no respect for you.
I think you need to dump this guy and straighten up your act. You do not give boys sexual favors, it is not cool you are not supposed to have power over guys because of what you can do for them sexually because they will not respect you for it and they will treat you mean sooner than later.
He is rejecting you. Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but it is the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Hey hun,
I am a the ripe old age of 27 and from personal experience can tell you that any male who wants to do things with you without being in a relationship does not care about you enough.
You have heard of the new blokbuster - He's Just not that into You. This would be a classic case in point.
That said the most important thing is what you want. If you are quite happy to carry on the way you have then accept that this boy doesnt feel about you the way you would like him to.
If you woudl really like to have a proper boyfriend that will treat you in the way you would like to and deserve to be treated then you need to accept that this boy will not be the person to do that for you as he has told you so in his own words.
Dont be heartbroken remind yourself of the fact that you are beautiful and deserve to have a caring boyfriend who likes you for all of the things that make you who you are - not just for the sexual favours he can get out of you.
Buffbeenie.
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