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writes:He likes for me to give him oral sex, but he doesn't really like kissing me, before or after, he doesn't like me in his face space. Does he not want to be that close to me, he says it's too personal, but isn't oral sex pretty personal?
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reader, Artistry +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Hi there,
Let's take a look at the situation, you say, he says he wants his "face space". Fair enough, but you are giving him your "face space", so to speak :o). Why does he not want to please you, as he is being pleased, in some way? If you want to be kissed, let's have at it. This should not be a one sided affair. If it is, then you are, I'm sorry to say, being used. If he is as inconsiderate as he sounds, then it would be much better, if you would find someone who reciprocates, and cares about your needs, as well as his own. Mature individuals respect those, they care about. I think that this man, is very selfish and you care enough about him, to try to please him. Stop trying, he is caught up in the id, his own selfish ego. Let him go his own way and you go yours, there are those who will treat you in a better fashion, go find them and be as happy as you can be. Don't settle for less, than what you deserve. God luck always.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Yes, oral sex IS personal. So personal, in fact, that it's almost my set-in-stone poilicy that I don't go down on a guy until I actually have sex with him--it's something that takes a lot of trust and dedication.
I would ask him why he insist upon keeping is 'face space' so private.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 The after, maybe I could see he doesn't want his own smell back in his own face, but before? He sounds like a selfish or certainly inconsiderate lover to me. What does he do for you? Do you just want a little romance, smooching and making out? And does he ever oblige?
I'm kind of with Birdy here...
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Yes. Of course it is!
He doesn't want to kiss you? Is that because you have his sperm in your mouth and he might become gay or get his own cooties? Frankly, I'd just smack him upside the head, the one on top of his shoulders. He's just being a dick-head anyways...
Perhaps this is the reason why, when the girl in Legally Blonde was asked why she didn't date high school boys, she said "As If. I'm fussy about the shoes that I wear, and they only go on my Feet!"
If I were you, I wouldn't put MY face space anywhere near HIS wast-of-space any time in the future, that's for sure. I would consider his lack of appreciation and insulting behavior - "PRIVILEGE WITHDRAWN".
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