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writes:Me and this guy have dated before and then he broke up with me. We have been going on and off for over a year. He says he loves me and cares about me but he just can't have a relationship. He has hurt me several times and for some gosh darn reason I keep on hoping that he will change. So its finally down to he says that he does love me and he has tired moving on but he doesn't care about anyone as much as he does about me. He says he wants to love me like he does but he doesn't know why he can't. He said the only person he wants now is me, but he doesn't know why he can't just be the person he wants to be? I don't know what to do. He has put me through so much that I don't know if I wanna to go through this again and be pushed out of his life again! Everytime I try to be there for him and love him he just freaks out and does something or says something to make me leave, and this has been a repeated vicious cycle. Should I stay this time and try to make him be the person he can be, that just sounds so ridiculous. Love is not something you have to TRY to do, I don't know what to tell him or do.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 January 2009):
 The only way he is going to change for you is if you leave him. Let him know that you're not going to stick around for his BS and that until he really changes, you're not coming back. If that doesn't kick his butt into gear then he's not worth any of your time.
I really think you should just ditch this guy and find someone who can give you a fulfilling relationship without all the back-and-forth, rubber band, mind game DRAMA!!!
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