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*ik11
writes:I still have strong feelings for this guy. Who says he loves and cares a lot about me. But isn't in love with me. Therefore doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. What makes it hard is we have a child so we see each other a lot. And I enjoy spending time with him. So I don't just want to stop seeing him. what can I do to help me get over him? And try and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Well if you won't stop spending so much time with him then you won't get over him, it's that simple.
There are no magical solutions, no pill you can take, no psychological tricks that you can do to turn off feelings. The only thing that works is distancing yourself from the object of your desires. But you're not going to do that so you're not going to get over him.
Love is like a drug, it is just as addictive, so put the word heroin/crack etc in place of "guy/him" in your question and you'll see there's no solution because you won't do the only thing that works.
"And I enjoy spending time with crack. So I don't just want to stop using crack. what can I do to help me get over crack? And try and move on?"
You see the logic behind what you're asking? I'm sorry nik11 but the only solution is the one you won't consider.
I wish you luck, unrequited love is a pain in the ass. Oh and having a kid together doesn't mean you can't distance yourself from him, it just means you can't completely cut him off but you can still do what's necessary to get over him but you won't.
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reader, Dr.luv  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I had the same problem with this guy who was not interested in me. So what I did was find someone else who was. Although Still think about him at times each time I think about him less to the point where you wont think of him at all. And hey if he is lying and really does care about you, you might make him jealous.
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